Post # 1
I’m wanting to have a “women’s luncheon” the day before the wedding however I’m not sure how to handle it. Like most brides I feel I’ve spent enough money (particularly for the bridesmaids, I got them quite a few gifts) so I was wanting this to be more of a thing that gives us extra time together since all of my girls are not around me. So I wanted to just go out to breakfast/brunch together at a simple breakfast cafe but I feel that I should be paying for this, is it appropriate if I don’t pay? If I don’t do this then I figure I’ll just have things like bagels and muffins, maybe cook a little at my place, but its not very big, I’m concerned people won’t be comfortable. Oh and lastly, I rented a room at our hotel to get our hair and makeup done at the morning of the wedding and I’m paying for coffee, muffins, bagels, etc. that morning. What do you think? Can we just go out to breakfast and leave it at that?
Post # 3
i think it would be odd to ask your girls to dish out for a bridesmaids luncheon. these are definitely optional and if done, they are a gift to the girls from the bride
Post # 4
I think that’s totally fine. I don’t think you need to pay. I would just ask them if they wanted to get lunch/brunch that day. Personally, if a bride asked me to do lunch or brunch the day before the wedding I would expect to pay my own way.
Post # 5
I think if you want to have a women’s luncheon, you should pay for it. Hey, you never know, maybe someone will offer to do it for you?
Post # 6
A bridesmaid’s tea or luncheon is designed to get a chance to say thank you to your besties! It can be simple or fancy, but it’s supposed to be your treat. But it doesn’t sound like it’s in your plan to have a full out bridesmaid’s tea… you are just thinking that you want to plan your wedding weekend to include eating together that Friday. (From my guess, you aren’t in a location that lends itself to a homemade lunch or that isn’t part of your skill set, so going out is on the agenda.) I don’t think that you have to treat necessarily… esp if you are on a very limited budget… but don’t make it a invitation event if it’s just a … we’ll go out for lunch while running around together kind of thing…
Post # 7
I did a bridesmaid brunch and paid for everything-drinks and all, in addition to ordering room service the day of while we got ready in the penthouse. (note-bring your own vodka and champagne!) My bridal party did an awesome job on my shower and b-party and spent a ton of money on dresses and accessories. So I think that if you are going to market it as a “bridesmaids brunch” or “women’s lunch” then yes, it would be nice if you pay.
If it isn’t an “offical” brunch then maybe just casually ask if anyone wants to go out to brunch with you and make it really informal so they get the hint.
Post # 8
I think if you’re going to invite people to it as a “luncheon” then you need to pay for it (since it’s more like you’re hosting it).
But if you were going to do something more casual like just mention you’re going to be at certain restaurant at a certain time and whoever wants to come is welcome, then I’d say people would expect to pay for themselves.
Post # 9
i completely agree with person above – camrie. make it clear that it’s casual and just an open invitation so there’s no confusion and all should be fine.
Post # 10
Since you are hosting it, then you cover the expenses. If you are not planning to pay for it yourself, you need to be very clear that it is a get-together where each guest pays their own way. No idea what the proper wording for that situation is.
Post # 11
I agree that its all in the wording. If you just want to have a get together at a restaurant and invite people to join you, then they should pay for themselves. If you decide to have a luncheon, you should pay for everything because you are hosting the party.
Post # 12
Anytime I go out to eat with anyone no matter what its for I plan on paying for my own unless I’m with FH 🙂