Do I Have to Feed Them? (Reception Question)

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
3856 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yes of course you need to feed them if you are hosting the reception. You can’t host an event and have people pay for their own meal! And now I have a few questions: are you renting out the whole Barcade? Are there places to sit for those who don’t like playing games? I’m intrigued and would love some more details about how this will work because I’ve never been to or heard of a reception in a Barcade!

Post # 3
2342 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Yes you obviously  need to feed your guests.

 Otherwise it’s not a reception it’s a free game of Mario. 

Post # 4
1054 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Yes, you need to feed people.  Which Barcade are you thinking of?  Some have food and some do not, and I don’t think there’s a Barcade at your listed location.  

The ones that have food actually have some decent veggie options.  There’s one where you could get a sandwich/slider bar set up and they do grilled cheese capreses and black bean sliders along with the other stuff.  And those who don’t do food will let you order in, so you could do a little nicer than pizza if you want.

Also, in all seriousness, I don’t love Mario.  But you know your crowd.  If this is what they’d enjoy then awesome.  You might want to see about reserving some seating though, in case some people would rather just sit and chat at some point.

Post # 7
4477 posts
Honey bee

A reception is you receiving your guests for the first time as a couple and hosting them.  Hosting them = food and drink appropriate to the time of day.  That is non-negotiable.  It doesn’t have to involve music or dancing or cake cutting or bouquet tossing or games.  It does have to involve food and beverages – it is literally the only part that is required..  So if you just want to go to a restaurant and call it a day once dinner is over, that is fine.  Giving them quarters for video games in lieu of food is not fine or just telling them there is pizza in the rec room is not fine.

 I have also had some pretty delicious, elegant vegetarian food at any number of weddings, charity events, and holiday functions both formal and casual.  If you can’t find more than cheese pizza, you aren’t looking hard enough or are sheltered and not looking in the right places.

Post # 8
13582 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Of course you have to feed your guests.  It would be incredibly inappropriate to have people at your wedding reception and not even provide hors d’ouerves or appetizers. 

I can think of tons of awesome vegetarian appetizers – grilled cheese with tomato soup shots (we did these at my wedding), vegetable pinwheels, nachos without meat (or meat on the side), bruschetta of all sorts, a cheese plate, stuffed mushrooms….  It’s absurd for you to say there aren’t appetizers for vegetarians, you just aren’t thinking very hard

Post # 9
995 posts
Busy bee

I would.  I worked in semi fine dining during college and ppl that didn’t get food for their guests always looked bad. Guests we’re known to not order food and or stay very long.  Pretty much ordered waters which are free and left. Lol

It was super awkward. 

Post # 10
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

I would give them something at least. We had a couple of different desserts but we had a very short wedding and reception due to the heat. I dont think it was more than 1.5 to 2 hours. Probably closer to 1.5 altogether for ceremony reception and a few family pictures. 

Since it sounds like the place you want serves food I would get at least a few appetizer choices, some desserts, and maybe offer a meal if you plan to have them there longer than 2 hours. It also depends on the time of day of the wedding. If it’s during mealtime, which mine was not, you probably really need to feed them something more than an appetizer or two. 

Post # 11
661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

fluffhead :  not sure where you live but in my neck of the woods I’ve eaten some pretty amazing vegetarian and even vegan food. And I’m a meat eater.

Have you looked into a catering company?

Post # 12
2014 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Yes, you have to feed your guests. If I found out I just spent all that time getting ready, money spent on your gift and then watching your ceremony to not be fed, I would be PISSED. 

Post # 13
6358 posts
Bee Keeper

If you’re renting out the place privately, would you still have to provide quarters? I would have assumed that you’d get free access to the games? But if not, I would buy like an all access card or something for guests. Easier than quarters if they offer that option. 

And YES of course you have to provide food. I think pizza and beer would be totally fine at this location. Maybe some appy platters if you want more variety.

Post # 14
873 posts
Busy bee

From the vibe you have described, pizza would work. Just make sure you order enough.

Post # 15
2558 posts
Sugar bee

Pizza would be fine for this type of event.  

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