Do I Have to Feed Them? (Reception Question)

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 16
1152 posts
Bumble bee

If you have your ceremony and reception at an off time — say starting at 8 you can get away with appetizers and pizza since people will most likely have already eaten dinner. But this could make the barcade rental more expensive. 

Post # 17
6999 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Is this a real question? Of course you need to feed them. It doesn’t matter the venue in which you host your wedding/reception, or the level of formality, you still have to feed your guests. 

Post # 18
2876 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Pizza is totally fine but you definitely need to feed them! 

Post # 19
1180 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

Yes you need to feed them, no negotiation. Hopefully your crowd likes this, I’m a gaming nerd but I’d avoid this like the plague. 

Post # 20
1364 posts
Bumble bee

fluffhead :  “The fiance and I aren’t party people, but who doesn’t love Mario?”

Me.  I don’t like Mario.  LOTS of people don’t like Mario.  A sack of change and cheese pizza doesn’t cut it.  I’d be livid. 

Unless you made this very clear on invitation.  “Optional get together at arcade after ceremony, all are welcome, cash f&b available” or something like that (assuming they have a full menu).  Then I’d know what the deal was and I could choose to decline. No folly on your part then, have whatever party you want. 


Post # 21
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

You need to know your crowd, looks like pp wouldn’t enjoy playing at an arcade, but I surely would! If your friends would have a good time I think this sound great, and pizza should go well with that atmosphere.

Post # 22
2821 posts
Sugar bee

Ummm pizza and a barcade would pretty much be my ideal wedding to attend!! 

Receptions definitely do involve food and most time frames will overlap with a meal, but you can for sure go with a more casual menu for that type of venue/event. I’d talk to the barcade and see if you can bring in your own food and what the options might be. 

Post # 23
9606 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

Pizza would be fine.

Otherwise, I’d make sure your wedding doesn’t overlap a meal time. Do 2pm thru 6pm, say.

Post # 24
1013 posts
Bumble bee

Yes, you must feed your guests. 😉

Yes, pizza is always a good option, especially if it’s not a formal reception. Make sure to get plenty of it so everyone can get at least 2 slices, if not more!

Post # 25
608 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

For the record, I don’t “love Mario”. 

Post # 26
610 posts
Busy bee

Veggie trays!!

Post # 27
1013 posts
Bumble bee

PinkCat :  Yeah, that’s another thing. As someone who likes to play video games myself – and as much as I love Mario – it’s easy to think video games are super popular. And in a way, they are! They are more popular now than ever before. However, they still aren’t exactly that popular, not too mainstream, and there’s tons of young people who never played Mario and just don’t enjoy video games in general. Especially think about this if you are inviting older people too. Not saying you should change venues, but make sure there are other activities to do too.

Post # 28
1532 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

FYI just because you’re vegetarian, doesn’t mean all you’re guests should have to be vegetarian for the evening. 

I honestly believe that it’s quite rude to make people meat-free for the evening because of your own beliefs, if it’s not theirs, and if that’s the case I would state directly on the invitation or tell people in advance you won’t be serving meat, or make sure it’s not during ‘dinner hour’, the worst thing ever is leaving a wedding still starving. Like at least give people the option to eat meat or get something before hand.


Post # 29
1081 posts
Bumble bee

fluffhead :  I am an avid video game player. But some people aren’t. 

Personally I’d enjoy attending a reception at an arcade, but I would expect to be fed. Personally I would be fine with eating pizza at a casual wedding. Not everything has to be plated and 4 courses.

I think it really depends on your crowd.

I don’t see why being a vegetarian is a problem. You could order some vegetarian pizza and meat pizza. Or if you are opposed to serving meat, don’t include meat pizzas.  People will not die from eating one vegetarian meal.

Post # 30
469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

1. Is this even a question?

2. Just because you’re a vegetarian doesn’t mean you have to do pizza.

3. I would do a appetizer reception with tons of choices pigs in a blanket, crab cakes, those little spinach filled puffed pastry (blanking lol), cranberry and goat cheese stuffed crescents, mac n cheese balls, etc. Obviously not all of it will be vegetarian, maybe a few flat bread options??

if your SO eats fish/meat I think it’s only fair to offer the option to your guests.

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