(Closed) Do I have to give money to father in laws favorite charity?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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3624 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow, that’s ridiculous, and really not in the spirit of charitable donations! Donate the amount that you feel comfortable, to the charity of your choice, without feeling the need to justify your choice to anyone! Wow is all I can say. 

Post # 4
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2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Oh man that is really tricky!

I feel that giving to charity is really personal and no one should force you to give to anything. 

What does your Fiance think about this? 

Post # 5
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3220 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Another (free) option is to volunteer your time this holiday season.  Tell him you’ve got a tight budget because of the upcoming wedding and this holiday you’ll be volunteering with your humane society or whatnot instead of making a monetary gift.  

Then perhaps tell him you’re bookmarking the page for next year?

Post # 6
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1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Give to the cause you want, and how much you want to give it. It’s a charitable donation, not dictatorship. I would just say that you will, theres no way he can prove if you did or did not

Post # 7
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1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

No, you don’t have to give to his charity. To keep the peace, I would just thank him for bringing it to your attention and that you and Fiance will consider adding this to the charities you support.

How  you handle chariable giving is none of his business

Post # 8
Hostess
18641 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I wouldn’t do it.  Honestly, how would he know you made a donation to them anyway?  Plus you are having the pets stay with your Future In-Laws to save money, not to spend it some other way.

Post # 10
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3220 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

In that case, I’d hire a dog-sitter. I usually charge $20 a day, so you should be able to make out pretty cheap for a student or someone similar in your area?

EDIT: Just checked where you live– I work in animal rescue and live in Charlotte, but am going to be up with my family in Virginia over break!

Post # 12
Hostess
18641 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

@Bichon Frise: Wow, then I think I wouldn’t allow them the “favor” of watching your dogs.  You should look into house sitting, we boarded our cat once and then next time we found a house sitter which was a lot cheaper for two cats instead of one!

Post # 13
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2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Bichon Frise: Honestly, I would be pretty pissed. I think ,like you said, thank him for the info and let him know that you and your Fiance will be making a personal decision later on. 

Post # 14
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441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

That’s an awkward position to be put in. I would tell him honestly about your tight financial spot due to the wedding then possibly look at a pet sitter. I know that a pet sitter isn’t exactly cheap, but that is what I would feel most comfortable with at this point. 

Post # 15
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5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Your Fiance really needs to talk to him family. They act like they are nice and doing you a favor to help you save money and then they turn around and try to force you to give to a charity because they are watching your dogs. This is not a favor. Do you have anyone else who could watch over your dog?

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