(Closed) Do I have to go? Kind of long MIL post.

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I go to the wedding?
    Hell yes, you have to. : (7 votes)
    23 %
    Hell no, she treats you poorly. : (20 votes)
    67 %
    I don't think it matters either way. : (2 votes)
    7 %
    Other (explain below) : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    If your Darling Husband is okay with you not going, then don’t. You have a lot of work to do and don’t need the added stress of trying to work while you’re out of town and dealing with this horrible woman.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2142 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    YES.

    This has nothing to do with her. It’s his cousin’s wedding not her wedding.

    If you don’t go it will be a slight on him not your Mother-In-Law.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1235 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

     If he lets you get out of it and you arent close to the couple I would back out. But if she has already paid for your tickets/board and that isnt refundable I wouldnt. If she asks for your help, politely decline and say that you have a ton of work to catch up on and that you cant help them set up.

     

    Honestly though his mom sounds like a huge bitch who wants to rub it in your face that she is helping with his cousin…if this girl was dating your husband she probably wouldnt have helped as much. That is how she likely feels like she has control over situations.

    Post # 7
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    3520 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think it depends–if you are able to go and be happy for your DH’s cousin (I assume you know him well?) and have a good time, then absolutely.  If you are going to be on edge because of your Mother-In-Law and not able to enjoy the event at all, don’t go.  It was generous of her to arrange the travel, regardless of the airport, but she did it without knowing for sure if you were going.

    Post # 9
    Member
    14496 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    It depends on if you are close to the cousin at all.  If yes, I guess I’d suck it up and go, but just stay away from Mother-In-Law.  If you dont really talk to the cousin or anything at all, then no, I wouldnt bother subjecting myself to Mother-In-Law for not even 1 second.

    Post # 11
    Member
    14496 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @brideatbeach: The tickets are books already so whether or not she asked, or even if she lied about where it was taking off, its up to you if you want to use it to go.  I dont think the tickets matter at this point, the money is already spent on them.

    Based on your last comment, I’d say no.  It’s obvious they are nice people and you get along, but it seems as if, other than distant family you will see once in a blue moon, there will not be a close relationship.

    Post # 13
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    554 posts
    Busy bee

    I would pass. There is going to be drama no matter what you do, so you should be happy and not stressed. In terms of the money- she should never have bought tickets for you so oh well.

    Post # 14
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    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    your Mother-In-Law is crazy. Without even considering the backstory, I would refuse to go just because she booked an inconvenient trip without even asking first. I think if you give in and go you will just encourage future controlling behavior from your Mother-In-Law.

    Post # 15
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    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    double post

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