(Closed) Do I have to go?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Hmmm.  Well, can you attend for a short period of time?  Are they doing dinner?  You could do dinner and then leave.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

It might turn out being fun. You can always bring a friend with you.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would say that I think you should go, maybe it would help you get closer. But I totally skipped out on my FSIL’s bachelorette party – I had a nice excuse though since it was out of town.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would honestly go for some portion. My Future Sister-In-Law will not attend my bacholorette party and I have to admit that I am hurt so I might be a little partial. Making a little bit of an effort can go a very long way.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I say go.  If you are totally miserable, then you can politely excuse yourself.  I would definitely make an appearance though.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I think you should go!  Little things like this can go a long way in creating and preserving family unity…and that’s a good thing!  I know it’s not really your thing, but you don’t have to stay out all night, just make an appearance, offer your best wishes, enjoy a little time with her, and she’ll really appreciate it.  It’s a win!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

What is your current relationship with your FSIL? I do not plan on attending my FSIL’s party in a couple of weeks due to the fact that we don’t have the best relationship. I don’t think she would like me to be there. Do you think she would like you to come?

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I think you should go too! I know that I would be very appreciate of you making the effort to come f I were in her shoes.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think it would be in your best interest to go.  It will only be a few hours of your life- but it may make the REST of your life with the in-laws a lot better.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

You should go! Last year I failed to go to a bridal shower (5 hours away) of my fiance’s soon-to-be sister-in-law. I didn’t think they would care because they don’t even know me, but now that I’m in the process of planning my wedding I feel so wracked with guilt over it!

It’s not that I have bad manners…I just didn’t know.

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think you should probably make plans to attend for part of it.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I would suggest attending at least part of it.  You said that you two are not close, but this would be a step towards becoming closer.  It would also be a nice gesture to your fiance that you want to be part of his family/accept his family/etc.  You never know, you might actually have a great time.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Tough ’em up!!! You should go, she is practically your family. How bad can a few hours be…

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