Post # 16
sherryberry: I’m really sorry to hear that and I can totally see that exact same thing happening with me. My “friends” could care less about me and my Boyfriend or Best Friend even pointed out that his friends wives/gf’s make way more of an effort to be with me than these girls (which some have known me since high school) it’s just disappointing on every level.
I once took a friend out for her birthday to a nice place for dinner, footed the entire bill (mind you we had drinks and dessert too) and for my birthday she couldn’t even bother with a happy birthday text. It makes me sick to my stomach just thinking about it.
Post # 17
We didn’t have a bridal party. Not having one saved us extra planning, cost, potential drama. Our close family and friends know who they are, and we have spent time with them even if they weren’t part of the wedding.
Post # 18
Yay! No bridal party bees unite! So happy to see this post! You absolutely don’t need one. I too opted to not have a bridal party and haven’t thought twice about it. Less hassle, less drama, and it truly makes your wedding about you and your FH – and that’s really all you need! 🙂 congrats!
Post # 19
Tabrett Maria: Darling, I salute you for your process of thinking/logic!
It is clear that your heart knows best, and I would not waste a second trying to beat around that. You don’t need a bridal party (In fact I find it so outdated). I did not want a bridal party, and still felt it was an upgrade to have a Maid/Matron of Honor only which what I ended up doing. NOW I truly, truly wish I didnt pick one. It is so beyond distracting to have these people around, the whole wedding is alot of work and having to meet and talk to all the guests and connect with them. Please stick to your gut feeling, focus on the two of you, because its truly all about the two of you and your love. Embrace it and don’t get distracted by anything else!
Post # 20
Tabrett Maria: and don’t get me started on going above and beyond for those you care about and having no sincere appreciation, let alone reciprication.
Post # 22
This is also my situation. Do you have any close relative. I an close with three of my girl cousins and we always have been and my baby siste. Those are going to be my bridesmaids.
Post # 23
Tabrett Maria: We had no wedding party at all, despite pressure from certain family members to have a flower girl. We wanted it to be just us and the officiant up there. We asked both our moms to be witnesses which seemed to really touch them. Friends come and go, now our moms are on our marriage certificate instead! 😊
on a side note, I can totally relate, I’ve had “friends” drift away when I no longer could be of any use to them.
Post # 24
We arent having a bridal party. I really want it t be about me and him up there..and our children to (we are blending) . I guess you can say his 10 yr old son is his bestman and my two boys (6 and 9) are my men of honor. Haha. Even if we didnt have kids, i love the idea of no bridal party.
Post # 25
Nope no bridal party here either. My dog is my flower girl 🙂
To be fair, when I was young and married my first time, I did have a bridal party. But now that I am mid/late thirties and don’t really have friendships that have been maintained I am skipping it.
Post # 26
Tabrett Maria: Hi I admire you for not having a bridal party . Follow your heart and make your day special for you and your future husband . Having a bridal party isn’t important to either us so our wedding party will be very very small if any at all lol
Post # 27
Nope , don’t have anything you don’t want . And , think of it as wedding party , not a bridal party – not only is that a fact , but it might make you feel a bit less anxious about not having anyone stand up for you personally, if that makes sense.
I love the pp’s idea who had her dog as flower girl . If we ever do a vow renewal , we’ll have ours. She’ll do a terrible job and wil make a lot of noise, but ……