Post # 1
Is it necessary to have a shower? We have gone from eloping, to having a back yard wedding. I really don’t want a shower. We are not having a bridal party. I don’t really want anyone to plan anything for me. If someone asks should I accept the offer? I just really don’t want a shower and don’t know what to do.
Post # 3
If you really don’t want one and someone offers just politely decline. It isn’t necessary to have on at all – especially if you are not comfortable with one!
Post # 4
@sarbear831: There are no rules. This is your wedding, no one elses (Ok maybe your fiance’s too). If you don’t want one, don’t have one. Like WeddingBells2014 said, just politely decline 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
@sarbear831: No, you don’t have to have one:) However, make sure you’re really tactful if someone offers to throw one and you turn it down. All of my BMs were from out of town so my Future Mother-In-Law really wanted to throw my shower. I really didn’t want her to, but she was just so excited about it I knew it would hurt her feelings if I said no.
Post # 6
@sarbear831: You absolutely don’t have to have one. I would tell a few key people (your mother, a sister etc) that you actively do not want one in case someone gets it in their head that they’re going to throw you a surprise shower.
Post # 7
No u don’t have to have one. No one gave me a shower and I didn’t throw my own.
Post # 8
@sarbear831: No, you don’t have to have one. My Maid/Matron of Honor wanted to throw one for me, but I told her I didn’t want one. She was pretty adamant about throwing me one, but we finally agreed not to do it. If someone offers, just politely decline.