(Closed) Do I HAVE to have a bridal shower/bachelorette party?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You don’t have to have either.  I didn’t have either.  I’m sort of sad about that but my friends didn’t live near me so I couldn’t really do it.

Post # 4
Member
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I don’t think it will be extremely weird. Everyone that I would want at mine are all long distance and it would be too difficult for everyone to coordinate their time off and travel, so I am opting not to have either one either.

Post # 5
Member
5153 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think it is fine not to have them. Many people opt out due to situations like yours or because family is far away. Guests who wish to buy gifts will either send them or bring them to the wedding. Don’t feel obligated in any way 🙂

Post # 7
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think you should talk with these girls about them not being in the wedding.  It’s better to kick them out if you don’t want to see them instead of them coming to the wedding and other parties and making things difficult.

Post # 8
Member
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Are you completely opposed to any kind of prewedding parties or just the fact that you feel like you have no one to invite/worth inviting so why bother?

What if for the bridal shower it was A. for the ladies of the family (yours and/or his) or B. you had a coed wedding shower for both you and your Fiance and invited family/close friends (his/yours and/or family friends). Would either of those work?

And what if for the bachelorette party, you just got your bridal party and/or ladies of the family and went to a really nice dinner to celebrate or you could do a coed one with your Fiance and got some people together and did dinner (or bars, whatever you want).

The thing is with your wedding activities (including your wedding day), it’s all about what makes you and your Fiance happy and you can totally make them whatever you want. Hope this helps, just som ideas!

Post # 9
Member
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m not having either.  Most of my friends are from college, so they’re scattered all across the country.  None of my BMs are in the same town as me, and I’m not in the same state as any of my family.  So logistically it just wouldn’t work.  And I’m fine with that.  It might have been nice, but when we tried to make it work it was just too much of a hassle and I didn’t care any more.  Plus, I’ve been to showers where there were only a handful of people and they were all from different social groups… awkward!  I told myself if it looked like it wasn’t going to work out I wouldn’t try to force it, you know?

I think your Future Mother-In-Law was very kind to suggest that she throw you one.  She probably just wants you to have the full “bridal” experience.  I would just tell her thanks and that she’s sweet to offer, but you just don’t think it will work logistically and you would rather just focus on the wedding.

Post # 11
Member
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I won’t have a bridal shower or a bachelorette party either. I find them tacky!

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