Post # 1
Hey ya’ll! New here – just got engaged this past weekend but already know that I do NOT want to change my anniversary date from June 22 so that is what our wedding date will be next year. I want to get out Save the Date’s asap but the one’s that I’ve been recieving lately have had a location on them. Our wedding will NOT be out of state so is it okay to send a save the date without having a specific venue reserved? Also…keep in mind that I am getting married on a Sunday so NOT a lot of places are already reserved – I’ve already made sure of that. sa
Post # 3
@BrideBayram: A city is fine. Do you know what city you will be married in at this point?
ETA: I would suggest sending save the dates out about no more than 8-10 months before (which is plenty of time). I know you mentioned getting married on a Sunday, but you never know, it could be difficult to get your ideal venue on that day. I sent my save the dates out as soon as I booked the venue (10 months out). I also had my photographer booked as well, so I knew the major things were handled and the date wouldn’t change.
Also, wait until your guest list is fairly finalized (in terms of a guest limit number). Once you send them a save the date, you need to invite them to the wedding as well. Some brides start with a certain number of people and then after talking with family/friends, realize they have to add a ton of people. Then they are stuck because they jumped the gun and sent save the dates out to people that may not have made the list when they realized the reality of the situation.
Post # 4
@BrideBayram: i wouldnt be any less specific than a city. Since your wedding will be on a Sunday, people will want to know how far they will need to travel, if they need a hotel, if they need to take Monday off from work. However, why do you want to send them out so early? 85% Of my guest list has to travel for my wedding quite a long distance and I sent stds out 7-8 months in advanced. I spread info by word of mouth for those that I thought needed more time for planning, but otherwise it’s been plenty of time. Granted, you can do whatever you want, but unless you are having a lot of out of town guests that need to make significant plans this far in advanced, why not wait?
Post # 5
Thanks ladies – honestly – it may be my obsession with “4 Weddings” that made me think that EVERYTHING needs to be decided a year in advance (honestly..I am going INSANE trying to decide everything by the end of June) but it’s good to know that I have room to breathe. Thanks so much for your advice on the guest list too @bmo88 – we came up with the “3 minute list” off the top of our heads and it was almost 150 ppl (including the +1’s) sooo…ya. I don’t have any experience and need lots of help! I appreciate both of your advice!
Post # 6
I actually think it’s better to NOT put a location on the save the dates, as that sometimes makes people get confused and think that they are the invitations (yes, really). Maybe a city, but definitely not the venue.
How set are you on the date? I mean, if an amazing venue was booked that day and you still wanted it, would you be willing to change your date?
Another major issue is whether you are sure about your guest list. Once you send someone an STD, you can’t not invite them, even if your venue ends up being smaller than planned or your budget suddenly decreases.
Just some thoughts 🙂 To be totally honest, I’d wait until you have the venue locked in to avoid the aforementioned issues.
ETA: We chose our date a year and a half out and booked our venue a year out, but didn’t send our Save-The-Date Cards until six months out. A year ahead is quite early.
Post # 7
Hi @BrideBayram: I see this is your Debut Post on WBee… so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”
On WBee, I am known to be a bit of an Etiquette Snob (lol, in that I know waaay too much about the topic)
For the record, Save The Dates are the newcomer to Wedding Stationery market… created as a way for the Stationers to make more money (a wealthy business to begin with).
As such, they are NOT A REQUIRED ELEMENT to Wedding Planning… fun, trendy for sure… especially if used in cooperation with E-Pics, but not a REQUIREMENT
Many Brides sadly jump the gun on issuing them (they’ve pretty much replaced the concept of Engagement Announcements that once upon a time were published in the local Newspaper’s Society Pages)
And because there is a RUSH to print them / issue them… they end up in the hands of folks who ultimately not get invited to the Wedding… once the Couple finds a Venue, and works out a Budget
And then unlike an Engagement Announcement one has made an Etiquette Faux-Pas because the Save The Date doesn’t serve entirely as an “Announcement” per se, but also has those dreaded words… SAVE THE DATE, which means one is to assume they will receive an Invitation at a later date
DON’T BE THAT GIRL… the one who ultimately ends up here down the road on WBee saying “Oh My Gosh, I had no idea Weddings would be so expensive… and now we’ve found ourselves painted into a corner, we can’t possibly invite all the people that we sent out Save-The-Date Cards to… HELP !!”
Figure out your Budget & Venue… BEFORE you issue a STD, if you send them out at all. (Like I said they are not a REQUIRED Element)
Hope this helps,
Post # 8
I personally would not send a StD without a venue. A venue determines # of guests (or at least heavily influences it). Without that, how will you know how many to invite? Once you send StD, you are nailed down to invite them. You are backing yourself in a corner if you set the date and guest list without a venue — you will HAVE to find one to fit that. That in and of itself would stress me out to the max.
Do yourself a favor, just wait. StD’s are usually sent out 7-9 months anyway at the latest and you are theoretically just a year out now.