(Closed) Do I have to have a Maid of Honor?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

In my mind, a maid of honour is someone who signs the paperwork for you. (My personal situation is a bit different in that my Maid/Matron of Honor is also my best friend and that’s part of the reason I chose her.) I’m a pretty practical person, and honestly – that’s all it is. It’s just someone who signs the paper for you. At a wedding I recently went to, the “best man” didn’t give the speech, the bride’s brother did – so that proves that you don’t need to have a “certain” person give the speech.

If I were you I’d ‘divvy up’ the stereotypical Maid/Matron of Honor responsibilities – have one person sign the papers, another give the speech, and maybe another stand next to you. Play to your girls strengths – if one is good at writing and/or speaking, she can do the speech. If one is someone whose presence really calms you, have her stand next to you. (As for the remaining order, Fiance and I are literally drawing straws so that’s an idea LOL. I always say ‘someone ahs to come first, someone has to come second, someone has to come last, etc. but it doesn’t mean anything.) If a few girls lvoe planning stuff, have them plan your bachelorette… you see what I’m getting at?

As for the title – you can call them all bridesmaids. And if your Fiance has two ‘best men’, that’s cool too. Lots of people have lopsided parties, and I’m sure that best man 1 can walk with a bridesmaid and best man 2 can walk with another.


Post # 4
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Don’t worry about the titles too much, if you love them all don’t worry about titling one maid of honor. I’m having 2 MOHS and a bridesmaid, My Fiance is having 1 best man and 2 groomsmen. In the big scheme of things, it won’t really matter who was given the title. When it comes to order of standing you can just do it by height, or who you like walking down the aisle together. Don’t stress, its your wedding, you can have it however you like it 🙂

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