(Closed) Do I have to have a MOH?

posted 11 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You dont have to have any if you dont want too! its just a title.. Make them both Maid/Matron of Honor 🙂

Post # 4
6571 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

my sister was in a wedding with around 5 girls in it with no moh, and it made it difficult because nobody was in charge for anything. but with only two girls, i don’t see how that would be a problem.

Post # 5
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My aunt did this with her 3 best friends.  But in the end she had to pick only one of them to sign the paper and my Mom says that makes that one the Maid/Matron of Honor. 

The 3 friends worked soooo well together and I loved the speech they made togther.

Post # 6
87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it’s totally fine with smaller wedding parties with 2 or 3 people because you can assign roles to everyone and it will work out fine. I am in a wedding party with 7 bridesmaids and no one is the Maid/Matron of Honor. I feel its chaotic, but that’s just because I am super organized and prefer to be in the loop with what’s going on and I normally don’t mind taking charge but i don’t like to be seen as the bossy one.

In order to not choose between them for roles during the wedding, maybe you could have a family member sign as your witness instead of choosing one person to sign. If they want to do a speech, maybe let them do it together. I guess it depennds on what you feel would set apart the Maid/Matron of Honor from a Bridesmaid or Best Man and just avoid giving roles that distinguish it that way. Regardless I am sure it will work out!!!

Post # 7
153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I have three bridesmaids, and no maid of honor. They’ll all work together, and I think it will be fine. My BMs are all my former college roommates though, so we’ve all known each other for years. If your BMs don’t know each other, you might have some extra organizing to do.

I don’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor because I didn’t want to pick between them. I thought about doing two MOHs, but that would be weird for the third girl. so, none!

Post # 9
1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

The only clear-cut difference between the Maid/Matron of Honor and the other BM’s is that the Maid/Matron of Honor stands closest to you at the ceremony.  Other than that, it’s just a title (unless the bride chooses to bestow extra responsibilities to the MOH).  If you have wedding programs, just list them both as bridesmaids.

Post # 10
1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Maybe you can flip a coin to see who will stand closer to you at the ceremony.  And the other girl can be the one to toast you at the reception.  🙂

Post # 11
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m having 3 people stand up for me and I’m not designating anyone as Maid/Matron of Honor.  I’ve asked each to do something different so that they understand their roles, especially since they live in three different states.  I picked the least dramatic person to stand next to me.

Post # 12
3997 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ve been to weddings with several bridesmaids and no Maid/Matron of Honor.  It isn’t necessary at all.  They all just pitched in equally.

Post # 13
5 posts
  • Wedding: April 2015

I was in the same boat and I just picked my sister and my friend understood.

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