Post # 1
I’m planning to have a small ceremony with 20 people or so and have decided not to have any bridesmaids or groomsmen. Has anyone done this or been to a wedding where this is successful? Who holds the rings? And the bouquet? I’m assuming I’d pass the bouquet to my Mom or sister during the ring exchange part and I’d guess his brother would hold the rings until that time as well. I don’t want any of my friends to feel left out, and I think I’ve explained my reasons, but just wondering if anyone else out there is with me?
I also don’t want to choose “colors”. It feels too restricted. I want to just have lots of pretty spring flowers of different colors. Anyone done this?
Thanks for your input!
Post # 3
None of those are required. Do whatever works for you.
Post # 4
I argee, as a general rule its one bridesmaid and groomsman per 50 people. For the size of your wedding they aren’t necessary. You can have anyone you wish hold your bouquet and rings. As for your colours do whatever you want, it’s your weddiing. Just be mindful of the season because that will determind what flower colours are available at that time. So you may want to look into your flowers before setting your date if they are important to you.
Post # 5
@Bride7844: Thanks for your response. I actually used to work at a florist so I’m not to concerned with finding things I like that are in season. Just wanted to make sure I wasn’t breaking some “wedding rule” or something
Post # 6
@RiverBride13: Oh my no, you do not need a wedding party to have a wedding ceremony. When it comes to the rings, usually the groom has them in his pocket. He just pulls them out while the bride hands her bouquet to someone. Just pick that person out ahead of time, so they know to be ready. Then join hands and become husband and wife.
The colors issues is a non-issue, pick flowers that represent your love. A wedding is about the two people joining their lives together. Ceremony colors are not necessary for a small wedding.
Post # 7
Im with you- we are having a guest list of about 30 people, and we are not having bridesmaids or groomsmen either. I hadn’t even given much thought about “who would hold the bouquet” Our wedding is a little less traditional, as we are getting married on a sail boat, so we will be sailing a bit before the ceremony starts, i guess i just plan to let someone hold it.
As far as the rings, we are having a ring warming ceremony and putting them on a float keychain for the guests to pass around, and becasue we are clumsy and I so expect them to fall overboard. ( hope not though)
Do whatever feels right to you, there are no wedding “rules” except say “i do”
Post # 8
The bride is the only one who cares about the color scheme. So if you don’t care, no reason to worry about it.
And no you don’t need bridesmaids. My wedding is going to be bigger than yours (75-ish) and I’m not having any. The most I would ever consider having is one, and I don’t have a sister or one obvious woman I want to “promote” over everyone else. Plus to be honest I don’t really see the point…seems like mostly a hassle. But I’m all about keeping things as relaxed as possible.
Post # 9
Our wedding is going to be set for 60 and we are not having any. it will just be him and I and our daughter and son.
Post # 10
I’m having a maid of honor and my Fiance is not having a best man. This has caused some drama in the family but whatever. Do what works for you! You dont “have to” do anything. Can the person marrying you hold the rings and you hand off your flowers to someone in the front row?
Post # 11
I would say go for it!!! We are having my daughter (15) as Maid/Matron of Honor and his son (16) as his best man. And so a far it has been so peaceful not having all of the “bridal party grief”. IMO when there is a bridal party sometimes it can be a lot of unneccesary drama and no bride wants anymore added stress.
Post # 12
The answer to any “do I have to?” question will always be “no! it’s your wedding, do what you want!”
Post # 13
If you don’t want them, don’t have them! We are only having a Maid/Matron of Honor and a best man, mainly because we each have one sibling so it works out. I am doing various shades of yellow and grey for my wedding and I get SO much crap from the vendors for not having an EXACT color lol. Just stick to your guns, it’s your wedding!
Post # 14
Thanks everybody for the support! It seems that others get “tunnel vision” on the colors and the bridesmaid dresses and all that. If that’s important to you, then that’s great, but for me I just want a nice, relaxed, meaningful day.