Post # 1
Ok, so this whole story begins this Christmas 2010. On Christmas DAY morning, my sister and I got into an arguement over something that happened christmas eve. In the middle of the arguement my sister screams, ” Why don’t you ask you B**ch wife” six (6) times from the top of the steps. My fiance was downstairs and could hear the whole thing. She began to cry hysterically and called her parents. My sister had no reason to do this, as i was in an argument with her that didn’t even involve my fiance. I sat down with my sister this past february and had a long discussion. I gave her my fiances number and she agreed to call and apologize. She didn’t. I asked her repeatedly the past four months and she still didn’t. This past weekend was my cousins wedding. During the wedding, my sister came up to my fiance and stated this apology, “sorry for christmas, hug.” Then got up and walked away. Incredibly insincere. My fiance and I weren’t even going to invite her to the wedding, but decided now that we would. We even decided to have her read some scripture, which we feel is awful generous. My mom says we HAVE to put her in our wedding party, but I don’t feel that she can be trusted and still feel that my fiance and I deserve more respect and a sincere apology. If you were in this situation, would you want your sister in your bridal party? Also, my sister and I haven’t gotten along for ~3 years now. She’s turning 33 this year and is 9 years older than me, but has never acted like a big sis.
Post # 3
No, you don’t HAVE to do anything. If I was your fiance, she would NOT be allowed in my wedding. Sorry, but if someone talked to me like that, they would never see me again.
Post # 4
your mom is absolutely WRONG. you don’t have to include anyone, certainly not someone like that. the only people you should be including in your wedding party are the people closest to you and your fiancee, who are with you thick and thin and support your marriage. example: when my cousin married her husband, her three bridesmaids were her three best friends. her husband has two older sisters. one read scripture. that was it. and as far as i know, both my cousin and her husband have good relationships with both of them.
if it were my sister, she wouldn’t even be reading scripture (or anything). she wouldn’t be included in the ceremony at all. she’d be invited, but that’s it.
Post # 5
It is your wedding, you really need to do what you heart says to do.
There is no need to have the additional stress of worrying about your sister behaving herself or not.
Post # 6
Sorry but you put who you want since its your wedding party. Your sister does not need to be in it if you don’t want her there.
Post # 7
i LIKE my sisters and they aren’t in my bridal party because we simply aren’t close enough.
Asking your wife to be to let your sister stand by her side on your wedding day sounds cruel.
Post # 8
I would say that you don’t have to.
Post # 9
Noooope you don’t. I agree, it would be uncomfortable for your wife to stand next to her at the alter. It would be almost like rewarding her temper tantrum.
Post # 10
Good for you for standing up for your FI! You DO NOT have to put relatives in the wedding unless you want to! I hate how parents think that because they are siblings, there’s no question that they will be a part of the wedding. Its not mandatory!
I think you are being really generous letting her come, but I would not let her be a part of the wedding