(Closed) Guest or no guest… that is the question!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I say yes because your bridal party is supposed to each have a date. If they chose not to bring one that’s different but they should have the same invite as the others that are in a relationship. The bridal party is a little different than your other guests and it would be rude not to let them bring a date or have the option to. My Fiance was deployed at my best friend’s wedding and I took a really close girlfriend as my  “date”.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you should allow the BM’s to bring a date, especially if the majority of the other BM’s have husbands/boyfriends/partners there.  I know she is there to support you but I would hate for her to feel like an “extra wheel”.  One thing I know for sure is that Happy Bridesmaids make for a Happy Bride!!

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

Since it’s a Bridesmaid or Best Man we are talking about – why don’t you ask her.  You might preface it with what you are expecting of her that day (ie: show up earlier for pictures, get ready with you, sit with the wedding party at dinner, etc.).

Personally, as Bridesmaid or Best Man in several past weddings – it’s a lot easier to not take a date.  But, I would also like the consideration and the conversation with the bride.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have the same rule but I gave my bridesmaids dates. I was hoping they wouldn’t bring them but they are planning to…

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Yes out of respect to your bridal party!!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I agree to let them bring dates.  Of my three BMs, one is in a really long relationship (longer than Fiance and I have known each other!), one has been dating her boyfriend for a year, and one has no serious boyfriend at the moment.  Sure, her date might spend more time with the other dates than with her, but after everything she’s doing for me, I wouldn’t want her to be the only one without a dance partner.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Our rule is probably going to be no plus ones unless cohabitating or in a serious relationship. Except for the bridal party. Only 2 out of 8 of our wedding party members are in not in serious relationships, so they will def be getting plus ones. The other 6, well, their significant other will already be invited to the wedding 🙂 Whether they want to have a date or not is up to them, but I think that should be their call IMO 🙂

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