(Closed) Do I HAVE to invite crazy cousin's live-in gf?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Joe and Sally Smith (Him and daughter specifically addressed)
    Joe and Guest (make him decide) : (12 votes)
    34 %
    Just invite the crazy girlfriend in addition to the daughter : (23 votes)
    66 %
  • Post # 3
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    5073 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    You need to invite her.  They are a unit – it doesn’t matter if the relationship is going to last.

    Post # 4
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    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    you’re going to be so busy that you won’t even have time to see or talk to her. The gracious thing to do would be to invite her.

    Post # 6
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    526 posts
    Busy bee

    That’s a tuff one.. I personally would say don’t invite her, but that seems so rude.. Lol can she just come after dinner?(bad joke, I’m sure)

    I’d just invite him with a plus 1 and see if he brings her. Maybe request his daughter come as his plus one since his daughter is “family”

    Post # 7
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    1375 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    They are in a serious relationship and living together, so she must be invited.  Honestly, I think there will be more drama if you do not invite her than if you do.

    Post # 8
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    386 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    You have to invite her. They are living together

    Post # 9
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    109 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    They’re a social unit, so it would be impolite not to invite her. Am I reading it right that you barely know her, but that you’re just assuming you won’t like her because of your cousin’s history? Why write her off like that? She could be a really nice person.

    Post # 10
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    289 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    You DON’T have to do anything. If you do not want her there, don’t invite her.

    Post # 11
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    4371 posts
    Honey bee

    If you actively don’t like her, don’t invite her. But if it’s just because you don’t know her, and meanwhile, everyone else is invited along with their gf/bf, then I think you have to invite her too. 

    Post # 12
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    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I feel bad telling her you have to invite her because I know how frustrating it can be to be in your position. However I think you really should invite her. And if you give the And Guest slot he probably will bring his girlfriend because 1) She’d probably be uber pissed at him if he chose his daughter over her to attend an event with and 2) He would probably assume it was meant for an adult to take the spot because generally adults are the ones invited to a wedding over kids (not always, but generally speaking here), especially in a Guest slot. Your plan may backfire since then you’ll have him and his girlfriend, but not his daughter who you really want to come. 

    Post # 13
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    312 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I wouldn’t invite her, but I often put my happiness above what is polite.

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