(Closed) Do I have to invite her? Because I sure don’t want to…

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If I were you, I would rather drama because you didn’t invite her than drama at your party.  I would just leave her off the list.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

It’s your party you can do what you want! I would say leave her, you don’t need her making the night about her. Enjoy your night without worrying about if she’ll pul something. 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Honestly, I would probably leave her off.  It sounds like she is far more trouble than she is worth and you two aren’t close anyway.  Why add drama? 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

You’re allowed ot not like somebody and you dont have to invite someone you dont like to your party. Dont sweat the small stuff hun, she’ll cause a bit of drama, you’ll feel awkward for a little bit and then it will be over 😀 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would not invite her because at the end of the day in 10 years or whenever in the future you’ll look back and remember your bachelorette party and your pre-wedding events, not this woman who most likely won’t even be in your life anymore. But if she comes and starts drama and kind of sours the night then in 10 years or whenever in the future you’ll look back and remember how the decision to include her soured your night. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Don’t invite her. Dealing with her pissy fit after the fact will be way better than coping with her at your party.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Don’t invite her  She will hijack the night and all the focus will be on her and you will be miserable.  I’ll bet she is one of those who constantly complains about her awful life on facebook for sympathy too.

Post # 10
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583 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If you don’t want to invite her dont invite her. plain and simple. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MrsLulu:  same

I would way rather have to deal with YET ANOTHER one of her episodes over not being invited, than deal with one AT my own party. No thanks!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Life is too short to have drama.  It’s your wedding, it’s your memories that will last… do not invite her.  Better drama over her not coming than because she was invited and made you miserable.

 

Post # 13
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1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree with all the above posters.

You know you don’t want her there, so don’t do it. Yes, she’ll find out, yes, she’ll be pissy. who cares? You don’t.

Post # 14
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509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Put up a poll, I love polls!

She sounds like she has issues and doesn’t much like herself or anyone else. If she is not that close to you, I wouldn’t even worry that much about it. She will hear about it & if she has the cajones to ask why she’s not invited, it may just be the first time someone actually calls her out on her behaviours…I know you didn’t say anything when you missed her party & I’m thinking that others have also avoided telling her how toxic her behavior is. Most of us do not fully understand how we come across to other people, she may honestly have no idea that she is that bad…

But please, for your sake, do not risk ruining any of your wedding-related events on her…have fun & congrats!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I agree with all the PPs that say don’t invite her. I was Maid/Matron of Honor for a wedding and another bridesmaid is very similar to how you described this girl- the Bachelorette party was a complete DISASTER because this girl made it all about her. We are a VERY drama free group and half of the (9!) bridesmaids still can’t talk about that night because we were all SO angry. Go with the poential drama afterwards rather than having a tainted memory of what is supposed to be a super fun night. 

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