(Closed) Do I have to invite my boss?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1326 posts
Bumble bee

No. Just no. 

The dynamic might change completely over the next year, so stop panicking until you actually need to. I 

Post # 3
2433 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

Too soon to even think about who from the office you are going to invite. Lots changes in 1-2 years.

Bosses usually don’t even want to be invited. Trust me.


Post # 5
1604 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree with above, and if you do Save-The-Date Cards, LIMIT THEM, like only to out of town VIPs.  Better yet, just send the out of town VIPs a letter.  I have seen more brides wish they could take back some Save-The-Date Cards.

Post # 6
309 posts
Helper bee

I agree with the others, you are worrying too early.  But with that being said…. if the wedding was in 2 months this would be my take. If everyone in the office feels like you do, I would politely say to the other office mates “I’m not inviting boss as my guest list is limited, to keep things from getting akward at the office can we keep it on the DL that you were invited and attended.”

Post # 7
1461 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

jbee88:  I would just wait 🙂  You dont have to send them a STD to invite them butyou do have to invite them if you send a STD.   I didn’t send my boss a STD for that specific reason!  It gave me longer to think about it!!

Post # 8
3611 posts
Sugar bee

Do you have any way of knowing how the others feel about your boss? If you know the others also don’t like her, I would invite your peers and the receptionist but request them not to bring it up in the office, as you’re not inviting your boss. I think this approach might still work even if you don’t know how they feel about her, as long as it’s done tactfully. You don’t have to bash on your boss or share any information other than the simple fact that you’re not inviting her if you’re not comfortable doing so.

Post # 10
189 posts
Blushing bee

I’d simply ask the coworkers to keep it quiet to avoid awkwardness. If you don’t want someone there, regardless of whether you work for them, you are in no way obligated to invite them. 

Post # 11
1320 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

jbee88:  I second all the comments about just having an honest chat with your coworkers to keep it on the DL, and it shouldn’t be a big deal. But I also agree that you don’t need to make any final decisions right now, so I’d be careful to keep wedding talk to a min and don’t make any hints that anyone particular will be invited. I stressed over a similar office invite dilemma, and I wasn’t working there anymore when the summer of the wedding rolled around!

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