(Closed) Do I have to invite my cousin if I’m inviting his sister?

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll:
    Yes invite him : (21 votes)
    68 %
    Nah, don't bother : (10 votes)
    32 %
  • Post # 3
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    1427 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I went with the “invite one, invite all” camp. As much as I wanted to keep my wedding small, I couldn’t get around inviting certain family members but not others. Think of the people in your life in circles… If you invite any member of one circle, the rest need to also be invited. My mom gently reminded that weddings are two people coming together and its not an event to potentially offend/drive separation in people. I sucked it up… and invited people. I chose how many “circles” outward I wanted to invite so sadly there were family friends that I would have liked to invite, but the rest of the “circle” I didn’t care for so that entire social circle got the ax.

     

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    At first, my reaction was “sure invite him”…. but if it’s a whole family? That’s a lot of seats for people you don’t know.

    Since you’re close to your cousin, could you ask her what she thinks?

    Post # 5
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    13010 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m in the “invite one, invite all” camp like a PP said.  I have 30 first cousins, and a few I’ve never actually met in my life.  My mother has already said we have to invite them.  Luckily, if you aren’t close/don’t really know him, he likely won’t come!

    Post # 7
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    4337 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think if you were just inviting his sister, it would be fine. But since you said you’re inviting his parents, as well, that I think you have to invite him (and, thus, his family).  Leaving out just one member of a family seems worse than inviting only one member…

     

    Post # 8
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    7902 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I think you are fine to not invite him since he is a grown adult with his own family and you are not close, but I do think that you should maybe give him a call and let him know that you are having a small wedding and you hope he understands.

    Post # 9
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’m in the “invite one, invite all” camp too when it comes to circles / levels within the family.  So you invite one cousin, you have to invite the other.

    Post # 10
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    155 posts
    Blushing bee

    Were you invited to his wedding?

    I would invite him – I think it may be more awkward in the future if you invited his parents, sister and not him.  Plus as you said it’s a 10-12 hour drive and you haven’t seen him in years he may choose not to come and you save yourself any awkward family gatherings!

    Post # 12
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    155 posts
    Blushing bee

    Sounds like my cousin – we never speak on our own, we live 3 hours apart so very rarely see each other (maybe once every 3-4 years), and when she got married I was included on the invite sent to my mom’s house even though I’d been living alone for a few years.

    I’ll be inviting her to my wedding though.  And her sister I see the same amount, and her brother I see even less often. 

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