(Closed) Do I HAVE to invite my MIL to the wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh do I know the feeling. I also wish we didn’t have to invite Fi’s Brother-In-Law.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hell yes I feel the same way to the nth degree.

 

She only just RSVP’d to my this Sunday shower 2 days ago. RSVP was by July 5th. In her message she also informed the host she’d be bringing her friend whose invitation she was sure got lost in the mail.

 

She’s a rockstar of a Mother-In-Law alright.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

my Ex mother in law was not a very nice woman – she even told me on the day we announced our engagement that she would not rest until she had succeeded in splitting us up!! her reason….she said I was to classy for him and he should marry someone in his own class!!!!!!  when I look back now I so laugh at it… but you know what in reality she was RIGHT!!!! LOL

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Haha! I loved my Mother-In-Law … right up til the wedding. Now I’m not so sure.

She was acting weird the whole weekend, and Darling Husband kept asking me to talk to her because he was getting so frustrated with her weirdness (I guess when you’re having a hard time watching your only son get married, it’s not very helpful to have him screaming “get the f*** over it and stop acting like a b****!” at you).  She just kept plastering on a very obviously fake smile and saying “it’ll be fine.”  As in, this gorgeous wedding that we’ve all been slaving over and paying out the ass for and are now dripping with excitement for … will be “fine.” When they left to drive back home early the next morning, I felt thirty pounds lighter now that it wasn’t my job to keep her happy anymore!

Since the wedding, she’s been complaining to Darling Husband about the pictures, hasn’t spoken a word to me, and has generally still been weird.

Here I thought I was getting a good one. Sigh.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Angkinah:  Oh my GOODNESS!!! I can’t believe someone would say that outloud! 

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I love my Future Mother-In-Law, but I’ll offer up my mother in her place.

I’ve known my Future Mother-In-Law for, technically, 6.5 years, but Fiance and I have been dating for almost 4. In that time, she’s been more of a mom to me than my own mother. When I graduated college, guess who came to the ceremony? Guess who didn’t even acknowledge it? Guess who we see every weekend and takes care of us with random care packages and helps us with anything we need? Guess who never calls me unless she needs money?

…Yeah. She calls me every few months because she “needs” money, despite being employed full time. They moved out of their apartment and bought a trailer, but lived in a hotel while it was being readied, and she emailed me (she doesn’t normally have internet access, but did at the hotel) to tell me about it. I said that they got a good deal or whatever and that I was graduating on x date. No reply. A few days later, she emails to ask if we can help her move. No mention of graduation. No mention or congratulations on our engagement, questions about our wedding, nothing. I’ve gotten more well wishes from people I haven’t seen or spoken to in YEARS than I have from my own mother. I’m going to tell the photographer to minimize the amount of family pictures we take and not take any pictures of my mother and her boyfriend when she can avoid it. We hired a photographer for my grandparents’ 50th anniversary and her boyfriend bitched every time the camera was anywhere near pointed in his direction, and said that he was going to “break the fucking thing if he keeps snapping away.” Ugh.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Mrs.LetsGoPens:  She was never timid about the things she said to anyone!! For the time he and I were together I tried my best to avoid her!!!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My biggest fear is that my Future Mother-In-Law won’t come. We’re going to be making everything extremely easy for her; we’re paying for her air fare, we’re giving her the free hotel room we’ll get from the # of people booking in our hotel block. She’s far from the greatest mother, FAR, but if she doesn’t come it will break his heart, I know it will. I know it’s OUR day, but for your mother not to attend your wedding because of family drama from 20+ years ago?? Give me a break.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

My wish came true when we eloped, lol 🙂

If we did go through with the wedding I don’t know if I would be able to keep my composure with my Father-In-Law and Mother-In-Law. Both are always mean

 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Rusalka:  Exactly. That was one of the main reasons we decided to marry out f the country.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I just feel that way about 90% of my family, I know I can’t get away with that though. 

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