- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2016
Loooong story, but my fiance and I are going to get married in Copenhagen (where he is from and where we now live) and then have a second reception in Auckland where I am from. We are doing this as most of our friends, siblings, nieces and nephews, and extended family don’t have the chance to travel so far. Do I have to ask my parents to the wedding in Copenhagen as well? I am not very close to them but suddenly my mum is in touch since we’re getting married and she’s an expert after having 4 kids already married. They vistited me some time ago and hated it (cold, rain, expensive etc). They are constant complainers and criticisers (especially of me), make fun of people speaking different languages, hate new foods, are very embarrassing when drunk, and sometimes bring out the worst in me. It would be so much less stress, and I could just enjoy the day, if they don’t come to both parts of the wedding. Especially as they will need to stay with us in our one bedroom apartment etc. But my mum has mentioned that she wants to come anyway, that the reception won’t feel “real”, and she wants to see my “real” wedding. I am worried that if she is talking like this, and comes to Copenhagen, it will make the reception in Auckland less of a celebration with my siblings, their kids, and our friends there, and kind of be pointless then. I have tried telling my mum that the celebration in Auckland is just as “real” to us (the 10k pricetag is 100% real) but she won’t believe me and I am at a bit of a loss of what to do. Any advice?? My fiance doesn’t want to ask them to Cophenhagen either. Should I be a b*** and tell my mum no, or is there a way to do this w/out being awful? Or should I just suck it up and cross my fingers that it goes ok?