(Closed) Do I have to invite my sister?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

How old are your nephews (I’m assuming they’re her kids)?

Post # 4
Hostess
3369 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If your nephews are young and you want them there, then yes you need to invite her. However, if they’re older (like late teens), then you could probably get away with just inviting them. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@sosnowsexy:  You have the same problem I have my sister gets drunk and will flirt with men that are clearly taken. I have not spoken to her  in years because she has no class and always always embarasses me. My niece came to me the other day and said”aunty just invite her not her children and give her a list of dont’s”. “Do it for her mother”. My oldest sister the problem sister is the middle one. She drinks too much, no class, and just a hot mess!!!!! My niece said “aunty your Fiance knows who you are and the fact that you cant control grown people”.

SO KNOW THAT I WILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU AND ME!!!!! Damn shame we have to take the high road all the damn time to keep the peace. LMAO

Post # 6
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1828 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’m not inviting one of my sisters. After what she has done and said we haven’t spoken in two years and there is no reason to invite her.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

No. It’s your wedding. Invite who you want.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i think that depends on a lot of things, mostly how not interested you are in not having a relationship with her indefinitely. if you are ok with it, then no you dont have to invite her, but just be aware that this choice could be the final nail in the coffin. may not… you know her better than i do, but weddings tend to magnify everything for people…

Post # 9
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433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@sosnowsexy:  

No, you sure don’t. I wouldn’t. I’m not inviting my brother, he fits the description of your sister to a T and is a loose cannon, loves to say awful embarrassing things just to upset people. I made it very clear to my mother he was not invited and she had no say in the matter. (Lucky me, he didn’t want to come anyway). 

You don’t want a loose cannon walking around your wedding reception, it’ll give you bride stress and you won’t be able to enjoy yourself all night. Don’t do it.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@PacificMrs:  +1. I think if the nephews can transport themselves (as in they can drive or stay in a hotel by themselves if its a DW) then its ok to not invite your sister. But if they’re young enough to need a guardian/chauffer then they are probably too young to understand why you wouldn’t want their mother there and would be uncomfortable with the situation.

Post # 11
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1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You don’t have to invite anyone you don’t want there.

However, depending on how old your nephews are, and whether they may be able to attend with someone else (grandparent, great grandparent, aunt or uncle) if you want them there, you may have to put up with inviting her. (And, not knowing anything about her, whether you think it’s likely she’ll forbid them going if she’s not invited.) 

 

Post # 12
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Not inviting her would be like saying you’ve cut her out of her life. I would suck it up and invite her. 

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