- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
My fiance and I both work in a department at a university with about 10 full time staff members and about 15 student employees – my job is to manage the student employees. We currently live in this town, and he is moving about 5 hours away to work next month, and i am moving about 9 hours away from here to live with my parents and prepare for the wedding. the september wedding is in the 9 hour away place. (was that anonymous enough??) Main point being, we’re both leaving our jobs at the end of this month, and we’re leaving this town as well.
We’ve got about 160 on the guest list, which has been made for a while, and save the date emails have already been sent. We included our bosses and 2 close friend colleagues from the dept, as well as 3 of the student staff that i have become close to. We did not include two colleagues that we do not know well or hang out with outside the office, and to be honest, that are socially awkward and make me feel uncomfortable.
Today, one of the awkward guys came to sit at my desk, because i was dumb enough to say ‘how’s it going’, and proceeded to tell me twice that we should make sure to send him an invite, and that he’d be jealous and mad if we didn’t, that he could use a vacation to the fun city that we’re getting married in, and to make sure.
I awkwardly nodded.
I don’t have to work here anymore after this month, and he’s not my supervisor, so I wouldn’t suffer any work related repurcussions. Is it totally rude to continue to exclude him from the guest list after he said that so point blank? I know it was rude of him to ask, but now i feel uncomfortable about the fact that we are leaving him out. But he’s so weird!! I don’t want him to make my friends and family feel weird!!
Am I obligated or justified in leaving him out??