Post # 1
About two years ago fiance and I attended the wedding of his close friend’s sister. All three of them (fiance, friend, and friend’s sister) used to work together years ago and were close during that time. However we have’t seen or even talked to her since then, and I was really kind of surprised we were even invited to their wedding. Do we have to invite this couple just because we attended their wedding? We’re going to invite the friend, so I’m sure his sister will hear about our wedding. I really want to reciprocate the gesture out of ettiquette, but we’re on a tight budget and are trying to keep our guest list to a minimum. Advice?
P.S. There are a few others we are debating on inviting, not just this couple
Post # 3
You guys haven’t spoken in two years. I wouldn’t invite them personally. Doesn’t sound like you really want to, and your day won’t be made any better by their presence, so no..
You don’t have to invite everyone who’s wedding you’ve attended
Post # 4
No, you don’t have to. There isn’t a reciprocity rule for etiquette.
Post # 7
Etiquette Snob here…
Agree with what Americano:
wrote, altho “reciprocity” is the norm when it comes to Social Occasions / Obligations, the same isn’t necessarily true for Weddings.
So invite them only if you truly would LOVE to see them there.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t invite them.
I didn’t invite my college roommate to my wedding even though I went to hers 5 years ago. Haven’t spoken since.
Post # 9
I read somewhere that you only have to reciprocate if you attended their wedding in the past year.