(Closed) Do I have to invite them??

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3256 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@sunkissed19:  I would say, you are either inviting that level of family (2nd cousins, or whatever it is) or you aren’t.  The only exception I would make is if there are some with whom you have very close relationships, and you are inviting them becausee you are friends, not because they are family.  But, no, you don’t have to invite them.

Post # 4
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You don’t have to invite them if you don’t want to, but if you do then I think you do need to invite their spouses and their siblings. 

Post # 5
604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Yes, I think you should invite those 2 cousins who invited you to their weddings. 2 or 3 years isn’t that long ago. I think would be rude not to include them. No, I don’t think you need to invite their siblings, unless your’e still close with them.  

I too have a ton of 2nd cousins.  I’m not inviting all of them.  Most are much older than me and we never see eachother or talk anymore.  I’m only inviting the 5 that I see or talk to fairly regularly. 


Post # 7
1063 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

@sunkissed19:  People have different size weddings. Just bc you made the cut for theirs doesn’t mean they AUTOMATICALLY made the cut for yours. A high school friend I haven’t really kept in touch with since hs grad (ten years ago) invited me to their 200 person wedding last year. When we get married in ~2 with a much smaller guest list, they prob won’t make the cut.


I hear you with all the family tho- I have a huge extended family and dread having to work that part out! Good luck!

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