(Closed) Do I have to invite this Coworker?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

This is such a terrible situation… how big is your wedding? Is it big enough that you could go through the entire time without seeing/needing to speak with the disliked VP? To me it sounds like you’re stuck. Perhaps “disliked VP” will decline the invite?

Post # 4
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Is there any way that you can invite the other people and they won’t tell the annoying VP?  It’s pretty dicey inviting most people from a small office but not all unless you know that they won’t tell her.

Post # 5
Member
350 posts
Helper bee

Hmm, this is a tough one.  If you don’t invite her, how will this affect your working relationship?  Are you planning on staying at this job for a while and moving up in the ranks, or is this a temporary job you don’t really care about?  Would she have a say in whether you are fired, promoted, etc?  You say your wedding is not for another 5 months– why don’t you wait another 3 months and re-evaluate your relationship at that point?  Who knows, a lot can happen in that time and this may end up being a moot point anyway.  If nothing changes, then I would base my decision on how she could affect my position at the company (assuming that matters to you.)  On your wedding day you will be so busy anyway and will be spending like 5 minutes top with each guest.  Good luck with whatever you decide!

Post # 6
Member
3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

That’s a tough one….however, IMO if the office is a small one…your best option would be to invite her. We know mgr’s and vp’s shouldn’t retaliate for non-work related things…but unfortunately sometimes they do. Maybe she will decline.

If you think you could somehow invite everyone else without her knowing that would also be an option. I know in my office (and it’s not small) we hear about EVERYTHING.

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