(Closed) Do I HAVE to put my brother in the wedding party?

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Do I HAVE to put my brother and his wife in the wedding party?
    Yes, because it's your brother : (1 votes)
    7 %
    Yes because they put you in their wedding : (0 votes)
    No as long as they have some other special role : (2 votes)
    13 %
    No if it doesn't feel right : (12 votes)
    80 %
  • Post # 3
    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Honestly, you’ve got more reasons not to put your brother in your wedding than I have for mine, and my brother is not in mine.

    My brother and I have just never been close. He’s not big on being the center of attention in any way and he and Fiance don’t particularly get along (my brother has spent the majority of his life slacking and now apparently wants a cookie because he’s held a job longer than three weeks).

    If you don’t want him to stand up with you, don’t ask him.  You don’t have to justify that choice to anyone except yourself.

    Post # 4
    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    @SoCalBelle:  You don’t HAVE to do anything. I think this is a pick your battles stituation. How bad would it be with your family if he’s not in your wedding party? If they’re going to make your life hell until the wedding day, it might be worth it to just have him in your wedding party. Otherwise, don’t bother.

    Post # 5
    4193 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    My brother will be doing a reading at mine. We had some major drama earlier this year, and this is my olive branch. However, I don’t want him standing up at the altar with me.

    Fiance and his sister are really close, and he wasn’t in her wedding. Not a big deal.

    Post # 6
    1810 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I agree with the PPs, you don’t HAVE to put him in the wedding and it sounds like you have more reasons not to put him in the party than putting him in it.

    My brother was originally supposed to be in my wedding party but then after a few weeks into Fiance and my engagement we had this HUGE fight where he said some incredibly mean things about me and my wedding. I didn’t want him in my wedding at all, but after we calmed and he apologized I made him an usher.

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