(Closed) Do I have to send 4 save the dates to the same house?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sending one would be fine. They wouldn’t each expect their own.

Post # 4
6473 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

I’m doing families on one. Logically, it makes sense – and financially too!

Post # 5
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’d say it would be fine to address it to The Smith Family … or whatever. 

Post # 6
4385 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree with everyone else, I think addressing it to the family is fine! Save the dates are a little more casual, invitations might be different, especially if the older “kids” are allowed a date.

Post # 7
7 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

what if all those people are roommates? i have a situation where a husband and wife, their brother, and two other males all live together (they’re all in grad school and it saves money to live this way). Do I really have to send four to all of them? I was planning on it because they’re all invited and all unrelated, but it seems silly for them to have 4 Save-The-Date Cards on their fridge. 

Post # 8
52 posts
Worker bee

They are just save the dates, you are letting them know the day of the wedding, not a formal invitation. Send one, put ‘The Smith Family’ on the envelope.

Post # 9
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I had a similar situation. I used an STD magnet and sent 3 of them to one house. They now pick on me because our faces are all over their fridge.  So learn from my mistake and just send one. LOL.

Post # 10
7152 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I only sent one per family by mail. But we had 500 postcards printed, because it was cheaper, so the hand delivered ones got one per person of age.

Post # 11
287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I think that is would be completed fine to send one save the date. I would address it “Mr & Mrs _______ & Family.” That should cover all basis and avoid all confusion. If you really wanted to, you could give them a call just to reiterate that but I don’t think it would be neccessary at all.

Post # 12
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception

@luckyblue: I think for STD’s you could probably just put ALL their names on the envelope, that way they know that they are ALL going to be invited. But when it comes to the actual wedding invites, mail them individual invites.

Post # 13
285 posts
Helper bee

I’m in the same boat where I am inviting parents and their children separate who have SOs, but when it comes to the save the dates I am only sending one to a household. My thoughts are if they can’t remember with one around the house are they really going to remember with 4?

Post # 15
7 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

@mssushi: I think that’s what I’ll end up doing. Like @mwitter80 said, you don’t want a bunch of your faces staring at everyone every day!

Post # 16
15 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

@luckyblue: I’d send one to the husband/wife/brother team, addressing it to “The XXXX Family”, and two separate ones to the unrelated males (unless they are a couple, in which case just send one for the two of them).

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