(Closed) Do I HAVE to send an invitation if….

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Technically you should.  What if their plans change, and they can attend?

Post # 4
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with JoJo, plans could change.  I was actually in this situation personally and couldn’t help but feel offended…FI’s good friend had a destination wedding in February that we had mentioned we wouldn’t be able to afford (b/c we are paying for our own wedding in June!) and we didn’t end up getting an invite.  Fiance asked his friend about it and he said soemthing about the bride’s mom messing up addresses, but we still never received one.  There was a period of time when all of FI’s friends were talking about the trip, we began to reexamine our finances to see if it could work…at the time though I couldn’t help wondering since we didn’t get an official invite, we were still actually invited?

We never got an invite and we ended up not going…but I did feel a bit slighted.  My Fiance and I actually made the joke to his friend (we have a very good relationship:  No card stock, No gift..haha – we were obviously kidding and did send a gift!) 

In the end, are you really saving that much paper or time?

Post # 5
2288 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Absolutely send it. Even though you know that they can’t make it, it’s good to let them know that they’re welcome  and will be missed.

Post # 6
2680 posts
Sugar bee

I would still send it.  Like JoJo said, plans can change so you never know.  Plus it shows them you are still thinking of them even if they might not be able to make it.

Post # 7
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I still sent mine just to be polite.  We had way too many invites anyway.

Post # 8
5398 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you should because they might be able to make it after all and if not maybe you’ll get another gift out of it.  Hey, I to put the gift thing out there. 😉

Post # 9
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Something like this happened to me a few years ago. I was out of state and broke, and one of my good friends was getting married. I thought she did not send an invite because she assumed I could not go, but really she sent an invite to my sister with both of our names on it and I never knew. 

So I say go for it! You never know, they might be able to make it after all and you don’t want them to feel hurt that they were not invited.

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