(Closed) do i have to send an invitation?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

this happened to me too. you should at least try e-mailing again one more time as a reminder that you still need their e-mail. i eventually got all the addresses i needed by doing this. people wrote back apologizing with reasons that they never got back to me but was glad that i reminded them.  after sending out your second e-mail give it a week or two and if nothing, then don’t send.

Post # 4
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

this happens all the time while inviting people to parties & such over email. sometimes im guilty of it too… you put it off or it gets buried under another 20 emails that day & you forget, or maybe you are on vacation or arent checking that address as much anymore.  i agree that you should give them a reminder email & a really close deadline (i need it by tomorrow/ friday). If they still dont respond, you’re sure they got it, and you really feel "neutral" about them, i’d say dont send an invite.  but… to be polite, if you get a response say in a month & you havent sent the invites yet, you probably should send one.

Post # 5
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

If you had sent paper Save-The-Date Cards, rather than an email, you would really need to send an invitation to everyone that you had sent an STD.  I’m not sure what the difference is with an email.  Were you really asking them to save the date, or just collecting addresses?  If you intended it as a substitute for a mailed STD, I think you need to send an invitation.  If you really need their addresses, and can’t get them from a friend or dexknows, maybe you can call them.

piperbenjamin is right – there are multiple reasons they may not have responded.  Maybe their email server was down that week.  Maybe their computer crashed.  Maybe they have the kind of spam buster that requires them to input your email address in order for your email not to end up in their spam file.

Post # 7
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Some people aren’t as e-mail savvy as others. I say offer them another e-mail opportunity or even call to get the address. Getting a STD makes one think they are being invited to the weddinga nd they may not have read the 1st e-mail close enough to understand they had to do something in return. If they don’t get an invite after getting and STD they may be offended.

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