Do I HAVE to send thank you notes??

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
9809 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Send thank-you notes to those who gave you a gift.

Post # 3
530 posts
Busy bee

belleskippers1819 :  I would call them up to chat and say thank you OR if I’m busy I would just send thank you notes to those who gave presents to show my appreciation at the sentiment and to say that I liked the gift. I don’t know if it’s necessary or not but I’m sure they’ll appreciate it.

I wouldn’t send notes to the others, not out of spite, but because it’s not necessary for them specifically.

Post # 5
201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I would send thank yous to only those who were generous with their thoughts of you both, their time, and money to provide a gift and or card. The others do not need a thank you card. I don’t think that’s spiteful or wrong; you thank someone when they have done something for you or with you in mind. Showing up to a party does not require acknowledgement, I believe. 

Post # 7
365 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

belleskippers1819 :  nopes! When you get their gift, they get your thank you note! 

Post # 8
6291 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

belleskippers1819 :  the reception is the thank you for their attendance, so you should only send thank you cards to those who gave a gift, otherwise it may look as if you are making a point/fishing for a gift. 

Post # 9
13707 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You send thank you notes to anyone who brought you a gift.  You don’t need to thank people for coming to your party.

Post # 10
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I think a thank you of some sort; be it a phone call, email, or traditional card is necessary for those who gave a gift. I believe sending a thank you to those who didnt, may make them uncomfortable about not giving one..

Post # 12
11574 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

belleskippers1819 :  why would they mention a thank you sent to someone else for a gift when they haven’t given a gift yet? 

They sound a bit clueless. Just smile and tell them you were so touched by the thoughtful gifts and you wanted to personally thank those who gave them. 

Post # 14
378 posts
Helper bee

belleskippers1819 :  Anytime someone gives you a gift, you send a thank you note.  That said, throwing your own housewarming party and expecting a gift is pretty darn tacky.

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