Post # 1
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Wannabee
My Fiance and I just got our first house acouple months ago. We had a housewarming party and made tons of food, provided lots of alcohol and I made everyone homemade favors to take home. We had a dozen people over (some couples, some friends, some family). We received gifts from half of them and didnt receive even a card from the others. One couple felt awkward that others brought gifts and they didnt. They continue to say they forget to shop for us every time we see them. One friend I’m pretty sure only showed up for the free food, alcohol, and to try and hook up with someone. Weird I know.
Am I supposed to send thank you notes to EVERYONE or people who gave something or should I just not worry about the thank you notes??
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Send thank-you notes to those who gave you a gift.
Post # 3
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Busy bee
belleskippers1819 : I would call them up to chat and say thank you OR if I’m busy I would just send thank you notes to those who gave presents to show my appreciation at the sentiment and to say that I liked the gift. I don’t know if it’s necessary or not but I’m sure they’ll appreciate it.
I wouldn’t send notes to the others, not out of spite, but because it’s not necessary for them specifically.
Post # 4
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Wannabee
Thanks a ton for the quick and great responses! I’ll send thank you notes to those who gave a gift. Definitly won’t be out of spite:)
Post # 5
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Helper bee
I would send thank yous to only those who were generous with their thoughts of you both, their time, and money to provide a gift and or card. The others do not need a thank you card. I don’t think that’s spiteful or wrong; you thank someone when they have done something for you or with you in mind. Showing up to a party does not require acknowledgement, I believe.
Post # 6
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cbryns : I see where you’re coming from and I agree. Everyone (who brought a gift and didn’t bring a gift) received a special homemade thank you gift before they left. The extra Thank you note will be for those who brought a gift or card for us.
If anyone is reading this, what do I say if that couple (who keep saying their going to be getting us a gift every time we see them) see or hear about the thank you notes and mentions it 😯 would it be improper to state “etiquette says send thank you notes to those that brought a gift”?
Post # 7
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Helper bee
belleskippers1819 : nopes! When you get their gift, they get your thank you note!
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
belleskippers1819 : the reception is the thank you for their attendance, so you should only send thank you cards to those who gave a gift, otherwise it may look as if you are making a point/fishing for a gift.
Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
You send thank you notes to anyone who brought you a gift. You don’t need to thank people for coming to your party.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
I think a thank you of some sort; be it a phone call, email, or traditional card is necessary for those who gave a gift. I believe sending a thank you to those who didnt, may make them uncomfortable about not giving one..
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
belleskippers1819 : No, only send thank you’s for gifts only.
Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
belleskippers1819 : why would they mention a thank you sent to someone else for a gift when they haven’t given a gift yet?
They sound a bit clueless. Just smile and tell them you were so touched by the thoughtful gifts and you wanted to personally thank those who gave them.
Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
belleskippers1819 : I would send thank you notes for the ones who brought gifts.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
belleskippers1819 : Anytime someone gives you a gift, you send a thank you note. That said, throwing your own housewarming party and expecting a gift is pretty darn tacky.
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