(Closed) Do I have to serve food other than cake?

posted 6 years ago in Food
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If you are having an open bar, I think people need food.  Can you imagine a night of drinking and just eating cake?  Oiy.

 

ETA: Did you say you AREN’T doing the bar?  In that case its fine to have a cake and punch type reception, but make sure people are aware that there is no dinner.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Please give your guests more food than just cake. People always need to eat. If you don’t, don’t be surprised if people leave to get food.

If you do opt for just cake, be sure to spread the word beforehand so people are prepared ( and dont show up expecting to eat).

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

If you are just doing a cake and punch type reception, I don’t see why you could do anything else.  What is the rundown of your wedding day events?  And, why are you renting the place for 2 days? (or was that just the requirement).  

How are you wording your invites?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

As long as you let guests know it’s a dessert reception and its not as long as a “normal” reception I think you’re fine. I’ve been to weddings where the service was at the church and then we just went to the church hall (basement) and had a cake and punch reception. It was much shorter and didn’t have all the hooplah but it was nice and from what I could tell seemed to be a very affordable option.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

What time is your wedding – you said 2:00pm? When will the reception start? If the reception starts close to dinner, I do think that a meal is warranted. Otherwise, promote the dessert reception and that will suffice.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

stick to your guns, the fingerfoods option sounds great, she obviously gave you prices of what you didn’t want, ask her again and specify that you will not be offering a full meal and this is what your budget and what you would like to do.

Cake and punch is wonderful, but there are a lot of people I know who for health or diet or whatever other reasons can’t do sweets or cake. If you have a large cake with some cheese and crackers or maybe a few veggie trays I think you should have most all of your guests covered.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I just think you need to state it on your invitation.  I’m assuming this is going to be a small simple affair? 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@globalmargaret:  agreed.  you should do a veggie platter or something healthy too!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think if you’re wedding is at 2, it’s short, the reception is in the same location, you say on the invitation that it will be a “dessert” reception, and you are fine with people leaving after only a couple hours (by then it will be dinner time, and they probably will just have had a light, early lunch,) then if you don’t mind that, then I would say it’s fine.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

NO, you do not have to serve other food. Like others said, mention on your invite that “a cake and punch reception will follow.” Since your wedding is after lunch time and much earlier than dinner time this is totally acceptable! Know that your reception isn’t going to last for HOURS, as most people will eat, chat a bit and then leave after giving their regards.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think a 2 pm wedding, followed by a cake and punch reception will be fine.

Who really expects more than a snack at 2:30- 3:00 pm?

Include “cake and tea” or cake and punch ” reception on the invitation.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree that it is fine for you to have a cake and punch only reception but, as pps noted, you must note that on your invitations.  Also, as pps have noted, just realize that your reception will not last the normal duration of a reception where food is involved.

However, please, PLEASE make certain that your venue will actually allow you to have a “no food, no bar, no catering of ANY kind” option. My DSD is getting married later this year, and, after all of her detailed discussions and e-mails with her vendor, she was (mistakenly) under the impression that she could just rent the venue but use none of the venue’s catering/bar options. It’s true that she is able to bring in her own caterer. However, she was stunned to find out weeks after she and her Fiance had already signed the venue-rental contract (this was in another city, and her dad, mom, and I did not see the contract to help her discover this), that she is now obligated to spend about twice as much as the venue rental cost for a beer, wine, and soda bar “option” that she thought was totally optional. It wasn’t.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

2 PM is perfect timing for a cake and punch reception, if that’s what you want to do.  As a guest I would not be expecting a meal and would eat lunch beforehand.  Note that it is cake and punch on the invitation, and there will be no room for confusion.  

If a guest arrives to a non-mealtime reception starving (especially when the invitation says “cake and punch” or “light refreshments”), that’s on them, not you.  Most people don’t want much more than a snack at that time of day, anyway.

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