(Closed) Do I help the groom pick out a tux?

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I picked out a couple of options for my fiance and the groomsmen and then took him to the store and let him select from those options. He was happy with that. Since he doesn’t know what my dress looks like, I had to select the tux/vest/style options that went best with my dress.

If he wants you to come, I’m sure he will appreciate the help.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You need to go and give him at least 2 or 3 options to choose from! If not, he might pick something outrageous! For example, my fiance picked out an all Ivory tux! I had to step in and we went together the second time around and I made him choose a black tux with an Ivory vest and tie. So yes, you really do need to acompany him or at least go beforehand to pick out tuxes so you won’t be in for a total surprise at your wedding! 🙂

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

From what I can tell there seems to be no official ettiquette on this issue. Most of us don’t want to screw things up and need you there to help out so that we can’t be blamed for ruining everything 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My FH just had his last day at a tux shop Saturday. He worked there for almost a year. From stories he told me its probably your best bet to go with him. He said grooms that came in by themselves usually spent two seconds deciding what to get and basically just got what FH told them to get. Whereas the ones that came in with their bride actually spent time picking something out they actually liked.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I went with my Darling Husband only because he had no interest, no idea, and no clue as what to do.  The poor thing was like a dear caught in the headlights, so yes, I went and helped. lol

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I went with my Fiance and his best man – it seemed odd to me not to be a part of it.  It’s not like you’re going to go dictate everything – just maybe gently push things in the direction you picture! Wink

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m going with my Fiance to pick out tuxes later this week.  He asked me to come along.  I want him to pick out what he likes, but I like it that I will be there to veto anything outrageous/inappropriate!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Be glad your Fiance ASKED you to come! Mine decided he was going alone with the guys and that was it! I was SOO mad that I could help him pick it out. We were unsure on colours because he really did not want to wear bright pink. I wanted to see what other options we had. Instead he went, and decided to go with a light pink instead. Which is fine with me now but I was really upset about it.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Fiance wanted me to go with him.  He didn’t really need me, but he wanted my opinion.  It’s not a faux pas if you go.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I went with my Fiance, and I’m glad I did because it gave me a chance to sway his final decision toward something I liked.  Cool

Plus, as another poster said, I know what will look good next to my dress, but Fiance doesn’t since he hasn’t seen my dress!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

we went together cuz his grooms are all Out of Town. he chose the suit, i chose the vest/tie colors.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

His parents and I went tux shopping with Fiance.  Mostly because Father-In-Law needed some slacks for himself and the place was having a sale.  I probably could have trusted Fiance to get the tux himself, without help,  but he wanted his mother and I’s opinion since he wasn’t sure he could pull off the tux without it making him look ancient.

If you can, try to take a fabric sample of your dress to match up the vest, tie, and whatever else he’s supposed to be wearing.

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