Post # 1
My aunt and my mom have had difficulties I’ll not go any further, let’s just say I have seen my mom really upset because of my aunt and she cried because of their disagreements; makes me sad to see my mom upset when shes such a good person
thing is I lived with my aunt for 1year while in school
do I invite her? I’m doing it out of obligaiton because I dont want to turn my back on the things she did to help me, on the other hand, I dont want to stress my mother who I love dearly or my cousins for that matter, because this aunt is not on speaking terms witha a few of my cousins as well………….
what to do???
Post # 3
Do <span class=”Apple-style-span” style=”font-weight: bold”>you like your aunt? How did you get along during the year you lived there? If you want to invite her, I’d talk to your mom about how she feels. My mom’s sister drives her crazy, but she would be sad to exclude my aunt from family events. You can also offer to try and keep them separate–make sure your aunt’s at another table, etc. That said, I don’t think you should invite anyone if you really truly are only inviting her out of obligation.
Good luck. It’s a tough spot to be in.
Post # 4
we werent that close shes not warm like my mom but she is very duty bound I’ll say that; my fiance said he wants my momn to be happy; my gut feeling is to do what is right but I love my mom and I dont want any tension on my day
Post # 5
I had a similar situation. I knew my mom would be miserable the entire weekend if her sister were there. I figure that as much as it’s a day about me and my husband-to-be, it’s also a really important day for my parents. I decided in the end not to invite the aunt in order that my mom would have a good day. It caused a bit of family drama, but hopefully that won’t reappear at the actually wedding.
But if YOU really want your aunt there (in my case I was completely indifferent) then it’s a different story. Have you tried talking to your mom about it? That’s what I did, and what helped me come to a decision. Maybe she’s more open to having your aunt there than you think?
Post # 6
I wound up sending an invitaiton to this aunt anyway, I know my mom wants to be on friendly terms with her, she’s just a little difficult; If she comes I will seat her as far away from my mom as possible; that’s what happens when you don’t get along with your sister, you don’t get the best spot; but my family obligation won out and I invited her.