Post # 1
Do I have to invite co-workers? I have about 25 people who work in my department, now obviously I’m not close with all of them but I would say I am close with about 10 of them – if I invite the ten that I am close with will the others talk crap??
How do I avoid this drama??
Post # 3
Coworkers are not mandatory. You make the guest list so you decide whom you want there and who you don’t. Don’t invite people out of obligation or because you feel you are expected to. Invite them because you truly want them there to share in your day.
If you have coworkers you regularly socialize with outside the workplace, then you can invite them if you wish. But you are not required or expected to invite any of them, nor your boss. Nearly everyone is ok with that and understands that weddings are expensive and intimate.
If you invite the ones you are close with, then ignore everyone else’s comments. It’s none of their business what you do with your life outside of work. Don’t hand out invites where everyone will see though.
If your coworkers (who are not invited) throw you a shower, graciously accept it.
Post # 4
@mags2233: Ya 25 is a lot, so I am sure most are not expecting an invite.
I also work in a small office and I plan to just invite the few that I am close to.
Post # 5
I probably should have added 25 in my department but 100 in the building – the 75 others I could care less for its just these 25 that I see all the time. They all know I’m engaged, most of them ask me how the wedding planning is going and try to make small talk I feel that some of them have started talking to me more just so that they do get invited?
I will be having a big wedding regardless (350-400 people) he has a huge family and I will say about 250 if not more of these guests will be his family! (Cousins, aunts, uncles etc).
His sister got married a few years ago and she had 650 – so we decided to compromise and try to cut it down by a lot to about 350-400.
Post # 6
My rule was.. If I hang out with you outside of work then you are invited. OR I worked with them closely at work (I’m a teacher so if they are on my Grade team).
Post # 8
I would say, the ones you are close to, like who you would sit with at lunch every day, and maybe your immediate supervisor. You also have to consider that most of these may be a +1 situation, so by inviting 10, you may be really inviting 15-20.