Post # 1
I dated a guy for five years prior to my relationship with current fiance. I felt I was deeply in love, yet allowed him to break my heart over and over again. I never felt good enough for him. I now realize I stayed due to poor self-esteem and the challenge to prove I was worth it to him. Everytime I’d leave the relationship, I’d end up right back in it. I had a lot to learn. For quite some time I had unresolved feelings and no sense of closure. I had to concentrate very hard to put one foot in front of the other while I healed. During this time, a close “friend” sent a text message informing me the two of them were dating. I consider myself an understanding person, and though it still would have hurt, I wish she would have talked to me about it with a little more compassion. Instead, she would tell other girls in our group of friends that she did not feel bad and kept a pre-madonna attitude. In fact, the first time I saw her was at a friend’s wedding. I knew our close girlfriends were nervous about our first exchange, so when she walked in I set my feelings aside, walked over, gave her a hug and said, “Let’s all have a good time tonight!” She looked at me and said in a snotty tone, “As long as there are no tears!” I was taken back by her insensitive attitude. I did not expect to be coddled or even apologized to. I just didn’t expect her to say something like that. I have not felt the same about her since, although she broke up with him after six months and is now dating her ex-fiance again. Strange situation. Anyway, our mutual friends are still close, as we all grew up together. Do I suck it up and invite her to our wedding, even though she rubs me the wrong way?
Post # 3
@JKStover: It doesn’t sound like she is a friend so I dont know why you would invite her?
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
Nope! I sure wouldn’t invite her if I were you.
Post # 5
Don’t invite her..ugh I hate friends who date their friends exes, that is just totally wrong.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t, I left some nice friends off who I’m just not that close to, despite having mutual friends. It wasn’t that they have upset me, it’s just i don’t feel we are close, or willl still be friends in 10 years, and we were tight on space.
Post # 7
No way. She doesn’t deserve to be there and she hardly sounds like a friend. Maybe time to move on from that friendship.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t invite her. Sounds like you havn’t even spoken to her for quite some time.
Post # 10
You absolutely do not have to invite her, and for your own happiness I say don’t do it. What a b!
Post # 11
@JKStover: I don’t think it’s necessarily wrong to date a friend’s ex (I’m married to a friend’s ex, though she’s not such a close friend). But regardless, why invite someone who’s nasty to you, just because you share a group of friends? Your “group” will manage fine without her for one night.
p.s. The spelling is “prima donna”, Italian for “first lady”.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t invite her.She sounds like a rude and inconsiderate person.
Post # 13
Nope!! Don’t invite her. Surround yourself with love and support, and don’t invite people just because you feel like you have to. Your day with be stressful enough (hopefully not) without her!
Post # 15
You’re not friends.
She’s nice been kind to you.
You rarely see her.
Why would you invite her? Just because she’s friends with people you do like does not mean she gets to come to your wedding.
Post # 16
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
Definitely not. You don’t need that kind of anxiety/drama on your wedding day. The only people that should be there are family and those that you or your fiance feel close to and want to share in your special day. She doesn’t sound like any of those good things. I doubt she would expect an invitation, either. And you definitely will not be stepping on anyone’s toes (I’m sure your friends would understand her not being invited, if that’s what you are concerned about).