(Closed) Do I invite her?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 18
2267 posts
Buzzing bee

There is no way I would invite her.

Post # 19
2050 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Nnnnnnnnnnope! So what if your mutual friends are still close? You don’t have to suffer for the sake of their mutual friendships, especially on your wedding day. They can all get coffee together some other time.

Post # 20
1396 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@JKStover:  Pssssh she’s a bitch, regardless of who she dates. Don’t invite her. You don’t want her saying something stupid to you on your wedding day, and she’s unimportant in your life, anyway.

Post # 21
3051 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

no way

Post # 22
1227 posts
Bumble bee

I would not.  I am inviting our friends to the wedding.  I see know reason why I should have to invite friends of our friends who I hardly know, let alone ones who are cold to me/us. You are under no obligation to invite anyone beyond SO’s/spouses of guests.

Post # 23
1351 posts
Bumble bee

Don’t invite her, but be super courteous whenever you see her, so to not make her think that her actions did want they intended to (make you jealous, whatever). 

1) You do NOT need that sort of negativity at your wedding.

2) She doesn’t deserve to be there.

Post # 25
60 posts
Worker bee

Let me put it this way – outside of your wedding, is this someone that you would call up and say “Hey, let me take you out to dinner, I’ll pay the $100 per head just to be in your company.”

If not, then no.

Post # 26
1065 posts
Bumble bee

I wouldn’t 🙂

Post # 27
1008 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@JKStover:  Why would you feel the need to invite her? She dated your ex (without talking to you about it like you had thought she might’ve), and when encountering her physically, you were woman enough to greet her graciously, and she still made a snotty comment! Leave that silly twit off of the guest list. 🙂

Post # 28
858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Honestly I have no problem with friends dating my exes as long as they aren’t annoying about it.  Your friend being a little brat about this.  It sounds like she just wants drama. I probably wouldn’t invite her but if I did it’d be just to show off how happy I am.

Post # 29
350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

If a friend ever did that to me after all the emotions I had gone through you best believe I would never want to see them again. That’s not a friend. And no way would I ever give her an invite to the happiest day of my life. 

Post # 30
9947 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Read your post again, this time imagining that someone else wrote it (maybe a friend who you love and care deeply about)

Does this woman sound like someone you’d want to meet if you didn’t know her ?

Does she sound like a good friend to have… or someone that cares about other’s feelings or happiness ?

Uh… NO

She sounds like a vindictive b!tch

This is NOT A FRIEND.  And not someone you should feel you have to associate with

This relationship is long over… move on

Surround yourself with TRUE friends, and those that LOVE you and RESPECT you and your happiness

Who wants to be around horrible people on their Wedding Day… people who will use the time to criticism, comment, be snarky etc

Think of it this way… Weddings are Expensive… really you’d dish out your hard earned money (be that $ 25, $ 50, $ 100 or $ 200+ per plate) to entertain this person ??

I wouldn’t bother

She made her choice about rubbing your nose in things with her a long time ago… (VERY UNCLASSY & RUDE) you need to take your leave of her now.

You mention No Closure.

You had none… only because you never claimed any… you can make that happen now.

* Maid/Matron of Honor & Date – INVITE SENT

* Best Girlfriend from College – INVITE SENT

* B!tch from way back when – SCRATCHED From Guest List (GOOD RIDDANCE)

Hope this helps,

Post # 31
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

No. Do you even need to ask?

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