Post # 1
I just sent out my Save-The-Date Cards and people have started to receive them. A friend of mine got hers and said how much she loved them and is excited for the wedding. A few minutes later I’m on Facebook and she posted on a different girl’s wall if she got my STD. The three of us lived together back in college 7 years ago. Now this other girl I haven’t talked to in years and wasn’t really planning on inviting, but now that the invited friend spilled the beans I feel like I have to invite her. I’d like to see her again and have her come, but she’d have to travel pretty far and I don’t want her to feel obligated since we have lost touch over the years.
Ugh I’m just so frustrated that my friend is assuming because she’s invited that our other mutual friends are, too. Advice bees?
Post # 3
If you want to invite her and have her at your wedding, go ahead. Let her decide for herself whether or not she can afford to attend. If on the other hand you have no intention of inviting her for other reasons, you don’t have to say or do anything. If she asks you and you don’t invite her, just let her know that there are strict space limitations. Good luck!
Post # 4
If you would really like to see her, then I think you should invite her. However, if you are tight on space or do not want to see her, then I would not. She will not hold it against you considering you have not kept in touch.
Post # 5
I think you had a reason for not inviting her in the first place…I would just Facebook PM your friend and ask her to please not ask all of your mutual friends if they are invited, because they are not all invited. Tell her if she has a question about who’s invited, you would rather she ask you directly, because you don’t want to get anyone’s feelings hurt.
On a side note, your friend is an idiot.
Post # 6
It amazes me how much stuff like this happens. On the one hand, your friend is just excited about your wedding and that’s sweet. On the other hand, AWKWARD.
Invite her if you genuinely want her there, but you have no obligation to.
Post # 7
I agree with MightySapphire. Shoot her an email and politely ask her to refrain from asking around about the Save The Dates, since you weren’t able to invite everyone.
I’m going to take a wild guess here and assume your invited friend has never been a bride. She clearly wasn’t tactful about inquiring if others were invited – she should have consulted with you first.
I don’t think you are obligated to invite your other college roommate.
Post # 8
I would definitely have a talk with the friend who spilled the beans to just let her know NOT to ask anyone else. You just had a limited guest list, and you need to keep your budget in mind. That way, she doesn’t ask anyone else who you didn’t invite.
I would send the other girl an invite. I’m with everyone else in that it’s her decision if she can afford to attend. If she can’t, then she’ll let you know!