(Closed) Do I invite her now?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

If you want to invite her and have her at your wedding, go ahead. Let her decide for herself whether or not she can afford to attend. If on the other hand you have no intention of inviting her for other reasons, you don’t have to say or do anything. If she asks you and you don’t invite her, just let her know that there are strict space limitations. Good luck!

Post # 4
1816 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

If you would really like to see her, then I think you should invite her.  However, if you are tight on space or do not want to see her, then I would not.  She will not hold it against you considering you have not kept in touch.

Post # 5
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

I think you had a reason for not inviting her in the first place…I would just Facebook PM your friend and ask her to please not ask all of your mutual friends if they are invited, because they are not all invited.  Tell her if she has a question about who’s invited, you would rather she ask you directly, because you don’t want to get anyone’s feelings hurt.

On a side note, your friend is an idiot.

Post # 6
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It amazes me how much stuff like this happens.  On the one hand, your friend is just excited about your wedding and that’s sweet.  On the other hand, AWKWARD. 

Invite her if you genuinely want her there, but you have no obligation to.

Post # 7
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I agree with MightySapphire. Shoot her an email and politely ask her to refrain from asking around about the Save The Dates, since you weren’t able to invite everyone.

I’m going to take a wild guess here and assume your invited friend has never been a bride. She clearly wasn’t tactful about inquiring if others were invited – she should have consulted with you first.

I don’t think you are obligated to invite your other college roommate.

Post # 8
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I would definitely have a talk with the friend who spilled the beans to just let her know NOT to ask anyone else. You just had a limited guest list, and you need to keep your budget in mind. That way, she doesn’t ask anyone else who you didn’t invite.

I would send the other girl an invite. I’m with everyone else in that it’s her decision if she can afford to attend. If she can’t, then she’ll let you know!

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