(Closed) do i invite her or not? help!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do I invite her?
    Yes : (8 votes)
    32 %
    No : (17 votes)
    68 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    It’s not your mothers wedding, its yours and your FI’s. If he made it clear that he doesn’t want her there and you’re not a big fan of her then she shouldn’t be invited. 

    Post # 4
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    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If you’re inviting all your cousins and she hasn’t actually done anything to your Fiance (except annoy him?), then I would invite her. If she’s done something awful to him or you’re not inviting all the cousins, I think you could get by without inviting her.

    Post # 5
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    407 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Do you have the room/budget to have her as an added guest? If yes, I would invite her. Odds are you’ll both be so busy you likely wont have to see her too much and it would mean a lot for your Mom. That said, if you’re over budget/numbers…. its your day and I think the ultimate decision is yours

    Post # 6
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    91 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Weddings aren’t the time to mend fences. Unless your mother is paying 100%, she doesn’t get to say who comes.

    She loves your cousin? Great. She can invite her over to her house on her time.

    Post # 7
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    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    If she’s family your kind of stuck, unless she’s done something total off the wall crazy.  It’s not like it’s just her and you two there… you won’t be spending much time with her at all.  

    Post # 8
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    426 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    If it’s going to be blatantly obvious that you didn’t invite her because you don’t like her (i.e. invited all of your other cousins, second cousins, neighbors several streets over and NOT her), I think you should bite the bullet, ignore her at the wedding, but still invite her.  If you are iffy on some cousins as it is, leave the crab out! 🙂

    Post # 9
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    505 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Personally I wouldn’t.  I am not inviting my cousins & 2 uncles because I hate them.  This will crush my grandmother since its her 2 sons & her other granddaughters, but you know what..she will be crushed, but she will get over it. My grandmother knows how I feel about them. 

    I say don’t invite, why ruin it for everyone if she makes a stink about something then trying to appease just one person for an invite.  

    Just because family doesn’t mean you have to invite her.

    Post # 10
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    3257 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Just because someone is family doesn’t mean he or she is automatically invited if that person doesn’t treat you or your fiance well! Some of you may remember when I posted this before, but my cousin freaked out when she found out we had the same dress and totally reamed me out for it even though I had done nothing to her. My grandmother is so upset about it, but I’m not inviting her. If someone doesn’t treat you well, there’s no reason they should be at your wedding.Don’t invite her.

    Post # 11
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    2263 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I guess like the other posters said, if you have the space, funds, and all the other cousins are invited then I would just to keep the peace. However, if you can get away with not inviting her then Do IT! 

    Post # 12
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    2496 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    If it were me, I probably would invite her to keep the peace.  But, if no one else will notice/care…. then, yeah don’t invite her!

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