Post # 1
I work with a pretty small team of only 5 people. Since getting engaged and sending out Save the Dates for our October wedding, we’ve hired a new employee, who actually works for me.
He is the ONLY person from the team not invited to the wedding at this point. Do I invite him? He’s a nice person, and works really well with the team. I’m just not sure of the etiquette for inviting someone who works for you. I feel like that’s awkward that I’m his boss and he will feel obligated to give me a gift. But at the same time, I feel awful that everyone at work is always talking about coming to the wedding, and he’s not invited.
I have some time to think about it, but wanted to start getting opinions…help!
Post # 3
Since the Save-The-Date Cards were sent out before you met him, Im sure he is not taking it personally…I can speak from experience…I switched jobs right in the middle of wedding planning…several of my OLD co workers are invited, none of my NEW co workers area…they still enjoy asking me about the wedding etc. but I think they understand that the guest list was complete before i got here. WIth that being said if you have the room AND can afford it i do think that it is a kind gesture…
Post # 4
I think you should invite him. It will be weird for both of you if everyone else on the team is talking abour the wedding and he is left out
Post # 5
depends on your guest list – do you have room? what is one more person ya know? the more the merrier i always say, plus its a nice gesture.
i work for a slightly larger company – i invited my boss the one other guy on my team (there are only 2 of us) and another higher up that i knew before working here. i would have invited more but i you invite one you have to invite them all i felt safe in my work invitee’s i dont think other people were offended. people know how expensive and personal weddings are.
Post # 6
i don’t think it’s appropriate to invite someone who works for you. you never know — he could think he has to go/give you a gift because you’re his boss.
Post # 7
yes, i do have room… i just am worried about whether or not it’s appropriate since he works for me!
Post # 8
I wouldn’t invite him, it would put him in a pretty awkward position to be honest. Also, I might consider cooling the wedding talk at work to allieviate the stress over this. Keep answers short and rather vague, and eventually people will either stop asking or just keep it simple.