Post # 1
I am hiring my Pastor and i am paying him $500 to do my wedding. Do i have to invite him to the dress rehearsal dinner? And do i invite him to the reception.
I don’t think i need to but i don’t know what the proper way to handle this.
He is strictly a vendor although he did give us a couple sessions of premarrital counseling.
What do you all think?
Post # 3
Firstly i would like to point out how you called it a dress rehersal…i called it that all the time, I assume you mean rehersal…and I also assume that you wont be wearing your wedding dress for the rehersal
Secondly, you should invite your pastor. For me to say this is huge…cause well, numbers are numbers and people are people and my pastor wasnt someone I knew, it was just someone i hired and i didnt even know his wifes name. BUT i invited them anyways AND if the pastor was just getting paid to do it and not close to you or your family, he will most likely say no….like mine did 🙂
Post # 4
My dad is a pastor, and I know it’s pretty hit or miss whether he gets invited to either of those functions – more likely the closer he is to the couple.
I think that if you view your pastor solely as a vendor, and are paying him for the ceremony, you should treat him like you treat your other paid vendors. Will you be inviting your ceremony musicians to either event?
We invited our officiant to both (with his wife and kids), but he’s a good friend, so it was a totally different scenario. 🙂
Post # 5
I am inviting my pastor to both the rehearsal dinner and the reception. While I am not close to him, my Nana is and I feel it is the right thing to do in this instance.