Post # 1
My goal is to have a small intimate wedding (50-60 people). We are trying to keep it small where only those closest to us are there on our day. We are also on a tight budget.. My dad wants to invite the SIL parents. My brother got married last year and his in-laws are super nice but we were not planning to invite them. We have had a few family lunches/dinners with them and yes they are now extended family but we are not close. We have invited some ext-family members on my fiance side but his family is very close to those members. I am getting a bit stressed over this situation. Should I be obligated to invite them? Would it be bad not to invite them? Thoughts?
Post # 2
You’re not obligated but I think it would be nice.
Post # 3
Agree with PP – would be nice but no obligation!
Post # 4
If you aren’t very close and are having a small wedding, I don’t think you should feel obligated to invite them. Usually a small wedding means close friends and family only so I doubt they would expect an invite.
Post # 5
You’re not obligated, but this isn’t unheard of either. I think it depends a lot on how close the bride’s (or groom’s) parents are to their other children’s in-laws.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
Nope. We didn’t invite my brother or sister’s in-laws, nor did we invite DH’s sister’s in-laws. If it’s a small wedding, I really wouldn’t.
Post # 7
No, you don’t have to. I think sometimes when parents have already had a wedding for one of their kids, they forget that the same people don’t need to be invited. My FI’s parents also wanted to invite their ILs, but we can’t stand them, so we politely said no.
Post # 8
I don’t think you should feel obligated to invite them – they’re your brother’s family, but they aren’t your family. We aren’t planning on inviting any of our sibling’s in-laws, even if we know them quite well (which we do in two cases).
Post # 9
Thanks everyone for your comments!!