Post # 1
OK, we are having what is considered a destination VR. We live in Hawaii and are inviting people from California here. We have lived here since April and are having the event next year in Oct 2012. In the time we moved here my brother moved in with his girlfriend and my aunt divorced her husband and moved in with some guy. Now, technically the signicant others would be invited BUT I am trying to keep the guest list short (60 people) and I have never met my brother’s girlfriend and my aunt’s boyfriend. Do I still invite them? My list is already getting big and I am trying to shear it down.
Post # 3
I think as its your wedding, you get to decide on who comes. If you don’t know these people, don’t invite them. If it was a local wedding, it would be ok, but it’s a destination wedding that was already in the making before these events happened. So just invite who you want there, they should understand 🙂
Post # 4
@Doralise: Etiquette dictates that social units (people married, engaged and living together) must be invited to all events together. This includes your wedding.
Post # 5
Since they are both close family and living with their SOs, I would invite the SOs. It would be awkward not to.
Post # 6
Especially since it’s a destination VR, I don’t think you have any choice. If I were either of those people and were invited without my SO, I wouldn’t attend.