(Closed) Do I just give the bridesmaids cash at this point? Please help…

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I don’t think you’ll be able to just give them money.  Most people realize that being a bridesmaid means paying some hefty bills.  However, if you want to help them with the cost, you could just tell them that you’ll cover the hotel or hair/makeup.  You could also just give them a big gift card to a store or restaurant you know they frequent.  Just make sure not to expect them to buy anything that’s *really* expensive (like $200 shoes), and make sure they know just how much you appreciate them.

Post # 4
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Usually you do up a thank you gift for your bridesmaids….I have seen brides do spa days for them, some do gift cards with another small gift like a candle or picture frame that they can place their photo of you and them from the wedding. If you do up a little gift bag and slip maybe a prepaid visa or other type of gift card….I dont think they would have a problem….I wouldnt just do the cash….that aways seems kinda informal….plus they could always find a way to stash the cash back into your purse or some other way when you are not looking!

I dont think its bad etiquette when its done properly!

I think they would be really touched by your gesture!

Post # 6
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Honestly, I’d just bring it up outright. “I noticed how the expenses are adding up, and as a gift to my bridal party I’d really like to help if possible. Is there something I could cover as a way of saying thank you for being part of this awesome day?” 

She’s your friend. I really don’t think she’ll be offended. And if she says, no, it’s ok, maybe get her a gift card to a place she loves and goes a lot (which would save her money later). I don’t see a problem with cash either, but sometimes when cash is mentioned people throw around the T word.

Post # 6
14496 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont think you should straight up give them cash and say sorry this is cosing to much.  Most people understand that the dress and stuff will take up a small amount of change.  B if you want to pay for the hotel, or for hair/mu, that would be nice.  When I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I didn’t really add up cost, the only thing I really counted was the dress as ‘cost’, the rest of it was just fun to me anyways… weekend bachelorette party in NYC?  Sure it cost a few hundred, but nothing I wouldnt do for a girls weekend away anyways… I didn’t see it “oh my god I have to spend so much on her”  she was jsut a good excuse to have some fun!

Post # 8
1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Irishb: I agree with Pink Shoes, Instead of the money, take some of the cost away from them like the hotel, hair and makeup.


Post # 9
2183 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

@atalante: I pretty much did this.

I had a bridesmaid drop out, and I decided that with the money I would have spent (I’m paying for hair/makeup and part accomodations), I’m going to gift the other girls cash. They both said it wasn’t necessary, but one is a grad student, and the other is a mom of two… I wanted to ease the stress. They’ll get a small actual gift, as well.

Post # 10
1 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

In lieu of an actual bridesmaids gift I am giving each of my maids $80 to help offset the cost of the dress, and not asking them to get their hair/nails etc. done for the wedding.  They’re all very pretty and do a good job grooming themselves. 😉

They are all happy with that, but I am very close with all of them and it works for us.  I think giving them cash would be appreciated, especially in this economy.  Good luck!

Post # 11
515 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens

I sent each girl $50 cash to help cover the cost of shoes and I’ll be giving them a gift at the bridal luncheon.

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