Do I just walk away now?

posted 1 year ago in Waiting
Post # 16
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493 posts
Helper bee

I’m almost 32 and my boyfriend almost 40 (his birthday is Friday actually!) and we are discussing engagement and buying a house together.  I know men can mature slower (not sure my bf was ready at 32 for all of this) but I’d say at that age and after living together you either know or you don’t.  I say you do you and hopefully find someone on the same page as you!

Post # 17
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303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Coming from an older bee……. don’t walk, run. Don’s waste precious time on someone who doesn’t want the same things in life. It won’t change. Buy your house, enjoy life.  

Post # 18
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25 posts
Newbee

these are red flags that he is no good  for u. u deserve better. 

Post # 19
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1750 posts
Buzzing bee

I agree that it’s his maturity level, not his age.  There are lots of guys in their early 30’s who own their own homes and know they want to have children.  I think you are just not on the same page. You know what you want in your life and he doesn’t.  Don’t wait around for him to come around if you want marriage, children, a home/life with someone. What if you wait a few years and he’s still not ready?  It sounds like he still wants to do his own thing and not settle down and have a family.

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