Post # 61
My husband is also 6 years younger. We started dating when he was 24 and he proposed 3 years after. Age/timeline is not the issue, it is just an excuse.
If he really loves you, he would propose when he knew it is very important to you (because making compromises and the other half happy is important in a relationship, isn’t it?). I am not saying he doesn’t love you at all, he just loves himself more.
ps. After 18 months of trying and one miscarriage, we are planning to see a doctor. So if you really want to have a family…you may need to start now.
Post # 62
Water3000: wow! yea I think my guy just doesn’t want to grow up. We talked about it again the other night and he gave me more “reasons” like most of his friends were with their gfs were 6, 7, 8 years before getting married (which in his defense, yes I know of 3 of them). But it doesn’t give me any relief that he said that to me. Especially when his brother is getting engaged after only 3 years and is 25. I also just think he’s so damaged from his parents getting divorced that he doesn’t believe in marriage really. He said I view marriage as a beginning to starting our lives together and he already thinks we’re building a life together. I guess I’ll see what happens for the rest of this year.
Post # 63
If kids are a dealbreaker for you, I would say move on. Otherwise, it sounds like he does want to marry you, but just is not ready yet. Unfortunately, that’s a risk you run with dating a younger guy. I would just take a deep breath and continue to wait, maybe start planning how you can work together to help him pay off those loans.