Do I let my sister bring a guy no one has ever met to our wedding!

posted 2 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I let her bring this stranger?
    Yes : (85 votes)
    71 %
    No : (34 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 31
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    Blushing bee

    I find this really odd in these threads that people want to bring randos or new relationships to wedding. in my circles there is no concept of plus ones. everyone is invited my name and there or they are known on the circle. no one would ever eve dream of bringing a new relationship since bringing someone as a date to wedding is a big deal for us. you can bring a new partner to a weekly game night but not to a family gathering. 

    Post # 32
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    1398 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    Yes, she is your sister.

    Post # 33
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    7064 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I’d let her. 

    Also, 2 weeks out is a looong time for other things to change. We had to re-do our seating plan the day before because of last minute changes.

    Post # 34
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

    Let her bring a plus one if you are allowing single people to bring a plus one everyone should get the same treatment 

    Post # 35
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    578 posts
    Busy bee

    She asked, wouldn’t it even be more drama for you to say no? I just see (from what you described) her complaining to everyone and their brother that you wouldn’t let her bring her new man and pout about it the whole night.

    Post # 36
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    2741 posts
    Sugar bee

    I agree that it’s kind of rude of her to ask, but saying no is more likely to incite drama than having him there.

    Her having a very new boyfriend there isn’t going to be more newsworthy than your wedding. 

    Post # 37
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    At my wedding the best man wanted to bring a last minute date who I’d never met.  We had allowed people to have 1+s, so we let him.  It was a fair bit of work to rearrange tables and make her up a name card after all the others were printed, but ultimately no dramas.  They broke up almost immediately after the wedding and I’ve never seen her again.

    So I would let your sister bring the guy, but with the caveat that he is a ‘regular guest.’ Don’t let him in any of the important pictures.  You don’t want some random guy who nobody remembers in your family or wedding party photos.

    Post # 38
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    1662 posts
    Bumble bee

    zeebee1 :  for me its the opposite, i dont see the big deal about plus ones being strangers. Plus ones are normal in my circle, and I gave all of my guests a plus one. A random SO is about as much as a stranger to me as most of our guest’s serious SOs so it’s no different to me. I’ve only met some of the husbands of my close friends a few times. All of my bridesmaids are in serious relationships, but I’ve only ever met their boyfriends 1-5x total and barely know them on a personal level.  

     

    Post # 39
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    64 posts
    Worker bee

    She may have in mind to steal the show, but you’ll likely be too busy to notice or care. Let her bring him and maybe he will keep her occupied. 

    Post # 40
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    Newbee

    I would let her bring him, and  don’ give it another thought. Enjoy your special day and don’t let anything steal your joy

    Post # 42
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    126 posts
    Blushing bee

    I don’t thinktshe should be allowed one, but i don’t think it’s worth the argument.

    Can you say something like, normally as its only two weeks until my wedding, i have never met him, all place settings have been made, numbers sent to the caterer and noone else has a plus one that isnt engaged, married or living together, I would find it incredibly rude… However seeing as you are my sister I will make this one and only allowance

    Though that could create more drama…

    Maybe you could insist on her helping you out with the place setting or meeting him first? As someone else said, he may help placate her drama. Or he could be as bad, i think itd be wise to suss him out. 

    Post # 43
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    Blushing bee

    curiouscat2017 :  I meant form the sisters point if view. I meant that for us bringing someone is a big deal (not necessarily being invited, I don’t know many of my friends partners too well)  and no one would dream of bringing someone that are not in properly established relationship. Bringing someone as my date to wedding and family Christmas means seriousness here.

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