(Closed) Do i let them drop out?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1982 posts
Buzzing bee

Sometimes you just have to realize that the “family” that you make–your friends–are better than the way your own family treats you. I think you need to cut them loose. Tell sister 1 that since she can’t seem to get anything together to help you, you’re going to find someone to replace her, and that you want people who will be there for you, not “mom and dad.” Tell sister 2 that since she seems to be too busy with her own wedding plans and that since she seems to be taking sides against you with sister 1, that you think it would be best if she focused on her own wedding and not worry about yours.

And then stick to your guns. Usually I don’t advise just ditching family, but honestly your sisters are pretty bad. And make sure you call your mom and give her an itinerary of the wedding planning weekend, and leave some sunday afternoon slots or whatever for “sister.” They’re coming up for you, not her, and you have some more pressing needs.

Good luck!

Post # 4
1313 posts
Bumble bee

That’s sad, I’m sorry to hear 🙁

I agree with LaborOfLove, ask your friends, it seems as though they will be WAY more supportive, which is just what you need! This is YOU and your FI’s day and it doesn’t seem like they recognize that.

I think you will be happier in the end, this event is stressful enough, let alone with all that drama.

Post # 5
12 posts
  • Wedding: November 2010

I definitely agree, I can’t believe they are acting so childish! You don’t want people bringing you down on your wedding day and I feel like they will be the type of people to make it about them and just cause you stress. You shouldn’t feel like a bad person because you’ve been more than patient and unforunately they just aren’t being supportive enough and you need to surround yourself with people who will make you happy.

Post # 6
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Well, first of all definitely relieve sister #1 of her duties as she has made it clear she doesn’t care about being there for YOU on your wedding day. What a little snot. You don’t need to be mean about it, just say that you’ve decided not to have her in the wedding and leave it at that. Don’t mention anything about replacing her.

Sister #2 sounds like a typical sister, gossiping and trying to create a fight. Also, trying to steal your parents attention away from you since she probably can’t stand not being the center of attention. You can ask her to cool it for now and separate her wedding from yours, realizing yours is coming up soon and you need your parents to focus. If she complies, I would keep her in your wedding if not, tell her you can’t imagine how she’d possibly be able to devote enough attention to her Bridesmaid or Best Man duties and ask her to step down too.

I also vote for asking your other friends regardless of the decision you make about your sisters. You need people who are supportive in your circle and unfortunately it doesn’t sound like your sisters are.

Post # 7
1580 posts
Bumble bee

Sometimes people say stupid things. If 10 years down the road you will regret not having them in your wedding, you should keep them in it.

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