Post # 1
I don’t think I’ve seen this answered in any posts yet (but if it’s been answered, sorry . . . please direct me to the responses).
Anyway, I think I’ve been putting off writing my Christmas cards for one reason: do I mention my engagement? I have a bunch of friends that I only hear from via Christmas cards (yes, even after Facebook). I like to include a bit of what’s been going on with me. However, I’m not planning a huge wedding–my venue is limited in size and I’m paying. The question is: do I mention my upcoming wedding or the fact that I’m engaged? I’ve already sent my Save-The-Date Cards (most of the guests are relatives and close friends). I mean it is big news, but then again, I didn’t find out that some of these people were expecting children until after the kids were born. Should I just wait until next Christmas to mention my wedding? Thanks!
Post # 3
I have mentioned the wedding/engagement in our christmas messages to our extended family that are invited to the wedding -I wouldn’t mention it to people who aren’t invited to the wedding!
Post # 4
I would think if you normally enclose a letter with the big news from the year then I would but I wouldn’t if you normally only send a card signed with your name.
Post # 5
I don’t think that the people whom you only keep in contact with through Christmas cards are going to expect an invitation so I think you’re safe in that regard. Maybe just leave it at a general “looking forward to getting married this spring”?
Post # 6
If you’re not inviting them, don’t mention it. I think that if I got a message in my Christmas card about a friend’s upcoming wedding, I would expect to be invited…then, if you didn’t send me an invite, I might bug you about it, thinking it got lost in the mail. The correct etiquette is to send these people a wedding announcement after the fact.
Post # 7
We got engaged the day after Thanksgiving, so our Christmas cards were our engagement announcement sort of. We sent the same letter to people we weren’t inviting to the wedding and it hasn’t been an issue at all. However, our wedding is a year + after we sent those letters…not sure if that helps at all.
Post # 8
I didn’t mention it in the cards of people who won’t be invited to the wedding, if you feel that strongly about informing them, I think an announcement after the wedding is the way to go …