(Closed) Do I mention engagement in Christmas cards?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have mentioned the wedding/engagement in our christmas messages to our extended family that are invited to the wedding -I wouldn’t mention it to people who aren’t invited to the wedding!

Post # 4
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I would think if you normally enclose a letter with the big news from the year then I would but I wouldn’t if you normally only send a card signed with your name. 

Post # 5
2007 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I don’t think that the people whom you only keep in contact with through Christmas cards are going to expect an invitation so I think you’re safe in that regard.  Maybe just leave it at a general “looking forward to getting married this spring”?

Post # 6
950 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If you’re not inviting them, don’t mention it.  I think that if I got a message in my Christmas card about a friend’s upcoming wedding, I would expect to be invited…then, if you didn’t send me an invite, I might bug you about it, thinking it got lost in the mail.  The correct etiquette is to send these people a wedding announcement after the fact.

Post # 7
768 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

We got engaged the day after Thanksgiving, so our Christmas cards were our engagement announcement sort of. We sent the same letter to people we weren’t inviting to the wedding and it hasn’t been an issue at all. However, our wedding is a year + after we sent those letters…not sure if that helps at all. 

Post # 8
2561 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I didn’t mention it in the cards of people who won’t be invited to the wedding, if you feel that strongly about informing them, I think an announcement after the wedding is the way to go … 

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