Post # 1
A friend’s mom does weddings on the side and was asking me about what all we’ve done so far. As I was showing her what few pictures I have and telling her about things, she offered to be the day-of-coordinator for free. She told me “don’t think that you won’t need one.”
I didn’t want to be rude and ask her, but what exactly will she be doing on the day of?? Just keeping everyone on time?
I mean, I can see hiring one to help with the planning and stuff, but I don’t really get what they actually do on the day off?
I’ll probably take her up on her offer so we’ll have an extra pair of hands around, but my mom and I have been planning this whole thing and I don’t want someone else to step on mom’s toes if you know what I mean? LOL
Post # 3
No, you don’t NEED one but they are nice to have around. MY DOC pretty much made sure we were on time for things, had everything we needed, went to get anything I forgot and made sure DH didn’t see me before I was ready.
The best thing I told her was that if anything went wrong that I didn’t want to know and she just needed to fix it.
Post # 4
It’s FREE … take it. you’ll be surprised at the last minute crap that people will be coming to you to answer about and you just want to hang with your girls. IF she was charging i’d say no way but … she knows what she’s doing .. it’s free… let her
Post # 5
your flowers don’t show … you want to be on your cell pulling your dress over your head arguing with someone or.. have her do it?
Post # 6
I think it depends on how complicated your wedding is going to be. If the ceremony and reception are at different venues, there is complicated setup and no one to help, if there are a lot of elements involved, then a coordinator might be nice. But if you have a venue that does a lot of that stuff for you, a coordinator is totally unnecessary. It just depends.
Post # 7
I would usually say that you don’t NEED one. However, I went to a wedding this weekend where they didn’t have one and it was a disaster. There was no schedule as to when things were going to happen. We found ourselves waiting for 30 minutes in front of a plate of food to eat because the bridal party should be introduced, we didn’t know where things were located. Zero direction.
The wedding was beautiful but organization and timeliness do matter to guests and the DOC really help with that.
Post # 8
Thanks for your replies!!
My ceremony and reception will be held in the same room and will be flipped while the guests are at the cocktail hour in another room in the venue. I guess it would be nice to have her there during that while we are taking pictures.
I will definitely take her up on her offer, and will just have to give her a crash course of our wedding plans!